It was a long distance friendship so we mostly texted. Harder to see the red flags when you’re not hanging out in person all the time. I usually try to give people the benefit of the doubt and I’m like “oh that statement was weird but I don’t think they meant it that way” because the person genuinely did struggle with articulating their views and sometimes said things worse than she meant it But today she said some things that you could not chalk up to miscommunication. It was very clear