Girl Talk on Yik Yak | We really shouldn’t judge based on body counts because I don’t even know my body count. I’ve tried to count it and make lists. A lot of them are John Does due to manic events. I’ve only been in 3 major relationships. It’s fs over 20, it doesn’t define me.

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We really shouldn’t judge based on body counts because I don’t even know my body count. I’ve tried to count it and make lists. A lot of them are John Does due to manic events. I’ve only been in 3 major relationships. It’s fs over 20, it doesn’t define me.

Anonymous 6w

I think it’s stupid bc I slept with a lot of people like 4 years ago and then was in a relationship and now haven’t slept with anyone in like almost 3 whole years. So what does my body count say about current me? Literally nothing.

Anonymous 6w

right like if i fucked 20 people once or the same dude 20 times i would have still had the same amount of sex

Anonymous 6w

Like it’s crazy too, because most of that sexual interaction was when I was literally a minor like how are people gonna straight up? Say that this defines me as a whore when literally I was just a mentally ill little kid. As an adult I’ve only been with two people. And I’ve been an adult for four years.

Anonymous 6w

i know a girl who’s body count is in the triple digits and i wish i was joking😭

Anonymous 6w

You don’t know your body count which truly shows that it doesn’t matter bc anyone who looks at you, talks to you, knows you both surface level and deeper down can see 1000% that it doesn’t affect who you are one single bit. Body count and purity culture is pure bs and it genuinely pisses me off how little sense it makes, even without considering the double standards between genders

Anonymous 6w

I don’t think you be able to state what is and isnt a factor for someone when they’re searching for a partner. A lot of people find it to be an intimate moment and they don’t like you’re able to so easily become intimate with so many people because they want only you and want to be wanted in the same way

Anonymous

#1 6w

No exactly! It literally doesn’t. Those hook ups I had I can barely even remember. I try to make lists and then remember more later on. It doesn’t fucking matter. And any sensible person knows that. I just hate this idea that we are defined by those interactions.

Anonymous

#1 6w

It is awkward doe when girls ask me my body count for fun and I’m like girl idek ☠️

Anonymous

OP 6w

Yeah I’m especially not defined by what what 18 year old me did when I literally haven’t as much as kissed a dude in 3 years 😭 there’s too much nuance to make any sort of assumptions of someone’s character from a literal number

Anonymous

#1 6w

I feel like a nun or something rn if anything but some might call me a whore or something if they just heard that number

Anonymous

#3 6w

That's so pathetic for her and op

Anonymous

#6 6w

Did I say anything about dating ???

Anonymous

#6 6w

I’m talking about my worth as a person

Anonymous

#4 6w

No sweetie I didn’t fuck everyone who looked at me or was nice to me. My body count would be a lot bigger if that was the case. Even if my episodes of mania I still had some sense of standard. Plus every guy I went on actual dates with didn’t sleep with at all either.

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Anonymous

#4 6w

It’s almost like you don’t fucking understand mental health. Grow the fuck up

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Anonymous

#3 6w

As long as she was safe

Anonymous

#2 6w

Fr!

Anonymous

OP 6w

Well I think it can be about the same argument. I’m not saying anyone should make the judgment that youre a worthless human because of it, but we all make judgments. Thats just how we work as people when we disagree

Anonymous

OP 6w

Sure it doesn’t define you because no one act does, but it is a factor in who you are as a person because all of our choices build us

Anonymous

#6 6w

Bro. There’s an over importance in body count. Literally I don’t think my manic episodes of when I was a child define me. Lmao 😂 and just because something builds you doesn’t make it a piece of you. Most of my actions were being hypersexualized after SA.

Anonymous

OP 6w

Which is why I said that choice alone doesnt define you. It’s built in with other life factors. The reasons why you choose to do something give insight on who you are or what’s going on around you. It is a piece of you, because it happened but that doesn’t mean it still represents who you are now

Anonymous

OP 6w

You have no self- worth.

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Anonymous

#5 6w

I’m married sweetie, are you with your body count? Lmfao like get tf over yourself

Anonymous

OP 6w

I fear your reading comprehension is not good bc I said nothing abt who you’ve had sex with😭 I said that by looking at you or talking to you, other ppl wouldn’t be able to tell how many people you’ve slept with, which shows that body count doesn’t matter bc it’s just a construct made to judge women😭😭😭 Idk what you read but it wasn’t my comment bc that’s not what it said, I 1000% understand mental health as a girl with BPD and bipolar💀

Anonymous

#4 6w

i’m super confused too ngl i just assumed a comment got deleted or something

Anonymous

#2 6w

Nah no message deleted, she just didn’t read my comment right. No way I’d ever bash anybody for their decisions both inside and outside the bedroom. Like I said in my OG comment, purity culture and body count checking pisses me off infinitely and makes no sense bc I could lie to you and tell you ima virgin and you’d have no way to tell me I’m not bc it’s such a fake, stupid construct