Girl Talk on Yik Yak | it’s so misogynistic when there’s a dashcam video of a woman in a stressful situation— for example, a car crash— and a dude comments “so proud of her for not crying/ throwing a tantrum” um if she did, she deserves to

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it’s so misogynistic when there’s a dashcam video of a woman in a stressful situation— for example, a car crash— and a dude comments “so proud of her for not crying/ throwing a tantrum” um if she did, she deserves to

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Anonymous 6w

They hate emotions until the emotion is rage. They express that emotion just fine

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Anonymous 6w

like sorry for having a normal human stress response

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Anonymous 6w

it’s always losers too

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Anonymous 6w

Nah cause when I got in a car accident, I held it together long enough to call my mom (I was 3 hours away and coming home from school on a highway) and after I told her the adrenaline wore off and I started sobbing. Because 1. My face slammed into my steering wheel at 60mph (no airbag) 2. My body slammed into the side panel of my car so hard it broke it into small pieces resulting in bruised ribs and 3. Coming off of that much adrenaline often comes with tears because that’s how the body reacts

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Anonymous 6w

some people dont understand how traumatic car crashes can really be. i got rearended and i still look and watch the car behind me just to make sure they dont do it

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Anonymous 6w

I cried in my first accident because I nearly died (husband and I were hit at 60mph and spun a fuck ton before hitting a thick pole) and got shit for it. We literally weren’t supposed to walk out of that with the minimal injuries we had. I’m allowed to cry. I’ll still cry about it sometimes because it traumatized me so badly

Anonymous 6w

I think i may not have the full picture but every time something like this has happened it was other MEN that would shame the men for showing emotion, i havent really seen women do this crap, but it may be because of my environment

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Anonymous 6w

I cried the only time I ever got in a wreck. 1. It was one of the most terrifying things I’ve ever experienced 2. I felt bad for them even tho it was their fault

Anonymous 6w

Its actually hilarious

Anonymous 6w

friend was driving n my leg got stuck in the door 😀

Anonymous 6w

He said that as if she’s a kid…..

Anonymous 6w

He just jealous he didnt

Anonymous 6w

literally had someone i lived with in college come and tell me they hit my PARKED car in our lot, for whatever reason i was super calm, and everyone asked me how i didn’t freak out and that they would’ve backed me up if i jumped them

Anonymous 6w

sure. but then it’s hysterical screaming that lasts longer than 30 seconds, at that point, you’re causing more stress for yourself and others

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Anonymous 6w

I wish we were nice to tradwives.

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Anonymous 6w

Which proves my point exactly when men get held accountable and expected not to show emotion as well. I am also pointing it out. I think you missed my point girlypop.

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Anonymous

#15 6w

I got into a really bad car crash, my second one at that, and I ended up having to be institutionalized. It fucked me up so bad

Anonymous

#7 6w

i’m so sorry :( i hope you’re doing better

Anonymous 6w

i’m sorry i mean no offense by this but what was the point of commenting that’s? 🙂

Anonymous 6w

Well that’s great, you do know a rear ending is not as bad as 99% of car accidents?

Anonymous

#12 6w

keep in mind, my rear end accident was so bad, the frame bent 😔

Anonymous

#15 6w

Average rear ending. Clearly we’re not talking about being numbed

Anonymous

#12 6w

bro i’m on your side, i’m just saying that rear ends can be bad. if not physically, then psychologically

Anonymous

#16 6w

Probably because you weren’t in it and thus in no real danger?? 😭 And if they came to tell you instead of fleeing, that sounds like a responsible driver who made a mistake. Any reasonable person would just take down their insurance info and go about their day, no reason to be angry. I’m sorry if I’m misunderstanding something I’m just so confused why you think it’s strange that you were calm in this situation, because that sounds like a perfectly normal reaction.

Anonymous

#25 6w

It’s a natural body reaction when your hormones (adrenaline) increase and decrease rapidly. Stfu you fucking weirdo

Anonymous

#12 6w

it is. now imagine counting 1 Mississippi…2 Mississippi… and doing that 28 more times. it’s no longer a natural reaction

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Anonymous

#25 6w

thirty seconds is not as long as you think, especially when you’re in a near death situation, or something your body perceives as near death, or terrified or in pain. when you have that much adrenaline you’re literally unaware of your body sometimes.

Anonymous

#24 6w

because he was literally speeding and being a fuck ass coming into our lot and my car was literally out of the way and no reason for it to be hit other than him driving like a dumbass.

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Anonymous

#6 6w

you can preach all day. it’s a subjective topic so I can say the same in reverse. most people are able to regulate emotions, especially after long periods of time like 30 seconds, so given the number of videos with people screaming for that long, we can assume most people are being over exaggerative. get some screams out and then let people who aren’t panicking focus so that the situation doesn’t worsen.

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Anonymous

#25 6w

Biologically incorrect.

Anonymous

#12 6w

cite it then

Anonymous 6w

if there was any significant damage that couldn’t be fixed my simple means i would have absolutely, funny enough his car got absolutely wrecked, but mine didn’t

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Anonymous 6w

congratulations

Anonymous

#25 6w

you made your claims first, cite those.

Anonymous

#6 6w

i didn’t say she was wrong. she said i was “biologically incorrect” therefore, the burden of proof goes to her

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Anonymous

#25 6w

you claimed most people can regulate their emotions within 30 seconds of a traumatic event, you don’t have any source for that?

Anonymous

#6 6w

then my point in my first response to her is fucking valid again, isn’t it? this is all subjective, he-said, she-said bullshit because no one is going to know shit. i don’t and they don’t. i just gave my opinion that maybe you should be able to get a grip so you don’t cost someone their life in an already stressful situation

Anonymous

#8 6w

I could be wrong, but I *think* OP might be talking about men who comment on videos where women are sharing the aftermath of a car accident. Specifically, the type of guys who say things like, “Wow, props for not crying like all those other women.” Which is awful - because they’re both putting down an entire gender to lift one woman up and shaming anyone who cries after going through a violent accident. Which is a super valid and normal thing for anyone to do, which makes it more weird. 😭

Anonymous

#12 6w

How? Rear endings account for nearly 8% of all fatal car crashes while head on collisions around 10% and sideswipes at only 3%. So how did you get them not being as bad as 99% of crashes? Tell that to the 2000 people who die every year to being rear ended.

Anonymous

#30 6w

oh my baby i’m so sorry

Anonymous 6w

this happened in 23’ it’s just a scar n some nerve damage now lol

Anonymous 6w

They said they weren’t in the car though? That’s why I’m confused as to why it’s relevant to this post 😭

Anonymous

#24 6w

because someone literally hit my car?! would you not absolutely freak if someone hit your car!? like a normal human being tf

Anonymous

#16 6w

I wouldn’t crash out over it at them, no?? 😭Like, yeah it would suck to have your car damaged but if they came to you of their own accord like you said, and you weren’t in the car, and thus not hurt, I’d say that’s the best possible scenario for a car wreck. Just take their insurance info, no need to “jump them” like your friends suggested. I had this exact thing happen and they didn’t come forward, so I had to pay everything out of pocket.

Anonymous

#24 6w

i’d still be mad as hell if someone hit my car like that. best case scenario, i’m without my car for however long it takes to fix, meaning i can’t get to school/work/etc. and have to take ubers or hope someone is willing to drive me around. that means i’m losing time, money, or both because of something 100% not my fault and 100% preventable. worst case scenario, the car is totaled or i’m on the hook for the damages. huge financial burden. plenty of reason to crash out

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Anonymous

#25 6w

okay good for you? you seem upset. maybe you’d be happier if you had some empathy :)

Anonymous

#6 6w

sympathy you mean ;)

Anonymous

#6 6w

I get that completely, I guess what I’m trying to say is that I don’t understand treating staying calm in that scenario as an unusual reaction. If someone came to me of their own accord to admit their mistake and make things right, I would want to stay calm to get things settled with insurance and everything, rather than crashing out at them and potentially missing the opportunity to get that info in favor of an argument no matter how upset I may be.

Anonymous

#24 6w

But that’s just my perspective as someone who experienced the opposite in that scenario: someone not stepping forward and owning up to their mistake and costing me thousands in the end. I get being upset, I get crying, but to flip your lid at the person over an accident while they’re actively trying to make things right of their own doesn’t really solve anything

Anonymous

#24 6w

okay so i should put this in a different perspective for you. the guy was a total dickhead and had some more shit to everyone in that house so him apologizing didn’t exactly cut it after all the bullshit he had put us all through.

Anonymous

#16 6w

Ohhh I see, that makes complete sense then 😭 Sorry for the misunderstanding, I hope you got it figured out. I just remember when my car got hit wishing with everything I had that I could have gotten their information.