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Anonymous #3 1d

Ppl downvoted it. That proves otherwise

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Anonymous emmeline 1d

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Anonymous #3 1d

what do you define girlness as

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Anonymous emmeline 1d

tbh you gotta start blocking any and all transphobes you see and it gets tolerable. it sucks that that’s reality but most girls on here are supportive the hateful ones are just loud about it

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You talk shit. Then ur too much of a bitch to back it up.

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What?

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That made no sense. I get it was supposed to be a gotcha moment but it just made you look dense

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Anonymous #5 1d

they said im “too much of a bitch” to explain when i very clearly said im not going to do i dont get reported. yall not being able to comprehend things isnt on me lol

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Anonymous #2 1d

Considering half of this conversation is GONE I think it’s understandable for ppl to be a bit confused babe

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Anonymous #5 1d

the comment i’m referring to is still up babe

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Anonymous #2 1d

Ohhhhh so the part where they asked you to back it up with facts but you can’t so you just say “it’ll get taken down” instead. The reason it’s getting taken down is bc you’re a terf

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Anonymous #5 1d

girl bye yall are insane 🤣

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Anonymous #2 1d

ur a transphobe calling other ppl insane rn 😭😭😭 do u know how dumb u look?

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Anonymous #4 1d

🤷 i’m not the Girl Authority

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Anonymous emmeline 1d

The opinions of the few don’t represent a whole community!

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Anonymous #3 1d

okay so what was the point of your comment if you don’t even know what you mean by girlness? what does ‘girlness’ even mean? femininity? are you saying women have to be feminine to be allowed in this group? if a man aligns with girlness should he be allowed in too even tho this is a space for women?

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Anonymous #4 1d

Im not a man js

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Anonymous #4 1d

i think ur thinking way too deep into this bro ✋😭 and not in a good way

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Anonymous emmeline 1d

i never said you were

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Anonymous #4 1d

thats what it sounds like ur saying 😭🙏🙏

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Anonymous hooters 1d

you’re right im so sorry as a butch lesbian im a little sensitive to the idea i have to be feminine to be a woman

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Anonymous hooters 1d

okay well it’s not what i meant

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Anonymous #4 1d

Okay. Well to answer what “girlness” is, its womanhood. Womanhood can be shaped by upbringings and cultures. Including trans women who are also women. Feminine women and masculine women all have a sense of womanhood.

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Anonymous #4 1d

i mean they never said anything about aligning with being feminine, they just said girlness ✋🫪 girls can be tomboys and more masculine too just like they can be more feminine and like more feminine things ✋🫪 imo girlness doesn't equal femininity but im not the girl authority so 🫪🙏

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Anonymous emmeline 1d

yeah i read girlness like a play on girlhood/ womanhood too 🫪🙏

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Anonymous #4 1d

You can be masculine. Butch lesbians are awesome. Like i said culture + upbringing all have to do with it. Trans women and masculine women all contribute to womanhood

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Anonymous hooters 1d

yeah i know they didn’t, that’s why i tried to get them to clarify what they meant and they couldn’t

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Anonymous #4 1d

idk i feel like them saying their not the girl authority was clarifying enough 🤷‍♀️ like to me that just means it can mean different things to different people 🤷‍♀️ unless thats not what they ment then they can say that ✋🫪

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Anonymous emmeline 1d

It’s likely just the (cis) men and the covert bigots. They get reported and removed a lot but it’s like playing whack a mole sometimes. They’re not the majority though

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Anonymous hooters 1d

that’s pretty much exactly what i meant. im trans, i live life as both a man and a woman, and i know how frustrating it feels to be expected to fill some gender roles. thats why i said girlness, not femininity or kindness or maternity or genitals or whatever. i’m not here to police other ppl, someone asked and i answered

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Anonymous #9 1d

it’s a bit disingenuous to say that it’s just cis men when there are a LOT of transphobic cishet women like it’s a very real problem in our community

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Anonymous #10 1d

That’s why I also said covert bigots cause those cishet women don’t really show it until a trans person gets a little too vocal in their eyes

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Anonymous #10 1d

So like… if a black guy walks into a bar full if white ppl. And 30%-40% start calling him the hard R, it would be hard for the black persn to find that bar oretty chill tbqh. I get its not the same and i know you as an individual are nice and welcoming, but ~35% is a big number.

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Anonymous #10 1d

Not bashing u btw at all just venting a bit. You are wonderful

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Anonymous emmeline 1d

it is a big number but to be fair that number is consistent across the app. i’m constantly blocking people on here for transphobia, racism, misogyny, etc and it makes the app much more usable.

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Anonymous #10 1d

Yesterday or the day before i had someone telling me they need to send trans ppl to concentration camps. So im past a point

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Anonymous emmeline 1d

if you’re looking for the answer to be no there’s lots of reasons to be skeptical about trans women being welcomed here. my general experience has been very mixed, most people are very welcoming and supportive, but there’s a significant minority of people who are not and say awful things every time trans women are brought up. you can make it work or you can not it’s up to you either way

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Anonymous #10 1d

I mean i can def make it work. Just like a gross community imo

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Anonymous emmeline 1d

my advice on every part of this app, and every other website is block people constantly. recently i very rarely have to block people tbh because it’s usually the same damn people all the time.

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