
I went through this last summer after an extremely long and abusive relationship. I forced myself to do things alone even if I felt terrible. I held myself too it. Like getting coffees and walks. I ACTUALLY went to the gym even if it was just cardio. Then I somehow picked up running in an area I felt alone and at peace. Literally a trail along some corn fields. Then I was invited out to some places made some light friends off my posts and I’m still alive type shit.
I took myself on day trips to the beach, the renn faire, the zoo. Where ever I felt I could go, where he and I never went to start. Made those places my own and refuse to take ppl there. Then I was bored through it all, not MANY friends but some to keep it moving. I went on dating apps and set my status to casual relationships. Found a few ppl I thought were hot, some were really well off and some were cheesy “I’m getting deployed” type men. Who cares it was casual. But doors were always open
Had some of the BEST sex of my life when ever it worked out. And that’s it, when winter came I locked in and wish I didn’t but I hate the cold and going outside even to my car. I have genuinely grown and matured from that experience, my only negative was prior it all, during, and now after I have just learned to be alone and at peace with my own comfort but still gets upsetting when I want more and need to figure out how to get back in the social scene again. Wash rinse repeat
Like even if I felt upset being alone and no plans, I get myself made up enough to look like I was going out nothing crazy. And just sat in my car in a safe area and enjoyed like some good thunder storms or even then, sometimes a guy would hit me up super later and I’m kinda already to go. Or a friend will invite me out to a bar at like 10:30. It’s all about JUST DO IT and everyone is living a their pace in their storyline,