Anonymous OP 9w

so is the issue moreso not having your own vehicle?

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Anonymous #1 9w

The labs are 4 credits, I’m not a full time student so I can’t live on campus and she wants to have a meeting with someone so I can live on fucking campus. At my old age, I can’t it’s embarrassing

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Anonymous OP 9w

Yeah she’s being so excessive. That’s so expensive anyway

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Anonymous #2 9w

That and the fact that the woman wouldn’t let me leave. It’s financial abuse. I spent $1300 of my own money for classes I needed to catch up on and she said I was going to hell for not asking. Like excuse me, u want me to graduate right? I can only take those labs if I finish 4 summer classes she doesn’t know abt. My sister gave me half the money for the classes and my mother doesn’t know it’s out of her bank account, yet she knows I spend $1300

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Anonymous OP 9w

And my sister is 2 years younger than myself. For the record, my sister didn’t pay any money towards her school bills, I was forced to in the beginning when I begged to get a job to get a car so my dad wouldn’t assault me. But my sister didn’t have to beg to get a job and got to keep her money

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Anonymous #1 9w

That’s what i said, but it’s too dangerous to live off campus, yk what i just applies to 100 scholarships, if I don’t get anything imma cry

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Anonymous OP 9w

How far do you live from campus? Why is your mom against driving you?

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Anonymous #1 9w

I go out of state, I used to go to one 3 min away but in my families backbone like they mentally drained me, so after my second year I transferred out of state 6 hrs away

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Anonymous OP 9w

i think if you have a job you need to prioritize getting a bank account your parents can’t access, a car title with only your name on it, and speak to adults outside of your home about being financially abused—there should be local professionals & helplines that could provide more help for this specific situation because lots of women deal with being trapped financial dependents

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Anonymous #2 9w

I can’t leave this damn house, my mother works from home, and I don’t have a job cuz I can’t leave. Idk what to do

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Anonymous OP 9w

call a domestic abuse helpline

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Anonymous #2 9w

And my mother would overhear

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Anonymous OP 9w

Aw. Maybe try to finish up your degree, get a job, and see if you can move out with financial independence?

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Anonymous OP 9w

call a domestic abuse helpline. if she’s not going to physically beat you, call the helpline, tell them you are being financially abused, and see what they say. look up online what these professionals say to do as well if you can’t talk 1:1

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Anonymous OP 9w

they have live chats as well

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Anonymous #2 9w

you can text “START” to 88788

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Anonymous OP 9w

is the thought of being 22 years old on campus the main reason why you're saying no to live on campus? aside from the finances?

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Anonymous #4 9w

Not really, I’m not really allowed to be on campus unless I’m a full time student, if I’m taking 2 labs, that’s 4 credits. I won’t be a full time student unless I take 12 credits. A full semester is 15k with aid since it’s out of state, I can’t afford that, nor can my parents. Besides, money aside, I can’t just take 12 credits, I’m studying for the mcat and all my other course requirements for my major are complete, I even have a minor.

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Anonymous OP 9w

In the spring, I will be enrolled in a masters program cuz my gpa is trash because I transferred, I was depressed my first 2 years of college and my grades took a turn, and I took classes from like 5 different universities my transcript is a mess, my school doesn’t count the other schools grades into my gpa. I need a masters so that’s what I’m doing in the spring, it’s not what I want to do but I have no other choice. Living on campus it’s disgusting, it’s boring, there is nothing to do, no one

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Anonymous OP 9w

Stays on campus during the weekend, what am I gonna do with only 2 labs that meet in person 1 time a week each? Absolutely nothing, I’d rather save money and live off campus, like 2 min away in a house, with comfy furniture and take a bus, all the masters students do it and I know an undergrad who also does it

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Anonymous OP 9w

Yeah I’ve lived off campus since sophomore year. I can’t possibly see it being that unsafe unless you live in like Detroit. She’s just controlling you.

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