Anonymous #1 11w

What’s ur reasoning on that

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Anonymous OP 11w

I do understand where you're coming from, but I don't think it's a stupid decision. When you know you know. My parents have been married for 20 somethin years, happily, and they were together for about a year before they got married. My grandparents only 6 months, and the same. Happily married til the day my papa died. I think it's situational. When you have a healthy, loving and nurturing relationship with someone, why wait. There's no designated timeline as to when to get married. Now on the->

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Anonymous #1 11w

Other hand, if you are in a relationship where it's uncertain on how your partner will be as a spouse, then yes, a year might not be enough time. All I was saying was that more or less a year isn't really that crazy before marrying someone

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Anonymous #1 11w

And it also depends on maturity too

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Anonymous #1 11w

There are definitely success stories and I’m glad it’s worked out for your family members. The issue for me is that people change, and being with them for only a year you *don’t* know, because the way they act now may not be the way they act a year from now, five years from now, or ten years from now. Building real trust is something that takes time. And in those cases where it’s worked out, I believe that love and trust likely grew after they were married.

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Anonymous OP 11w

That's what I mean by saying it's situational. It's pattern recognition. You don't know how anyone will act in the future. Change is a part of life. What matters is that they're consistent throughout the relationship and that you've gone through what is right for you to know what is right for your marriage. That can be shown in a year, less than, or more than. It depends. But wouldn't say it's unwise to get married after a year, because a very broad statement and groups everyone together.

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