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Girl Talk 1d
Y’all I am in a ginormous situation right now and I need some advice desperately. It’s gonna be word vomit in the comments but I’m spiraling rn
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Anonymous 1d

So I’ve been with my current bf for 3+ years now. We spoke a few months ago about getting engaged and at the time it felt right, but recently we started hitting bumps in our relationship that have been making me question if our life trajectories are too different

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Anonymous 1d

Oh girl I’m into this keep going

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Anonymous 1d

Girl, I totally get you. I would say just take a day or two maybe three days to process it. It may just be like the feeling of overwhelmed that’s making you kind of think this and like the anticipation of getting engaged

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Anonymous 1d

It can be a scary thing and it may feel like it can be moving fast, but definitely take your time to think it through. Talk to your family. Talk to your boyfriend because no matter what you should be comfortable and open and honest about how you feel.

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Anonymous 1d

It’s scary a similar thing happened to my sister. If you need talk you can dm and we can call through Snapchat or something. It’s genuinely scary but if you have a feeling it means something. He might feel like he has to propose out of love and duty since yall have talked about it but it’s better to need space/ time then at the alter. Fr girl im here for you. Marriage is a big step and maybe it feels forced now but space might do you good.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

It got to the point where my family began to notice things were off and around the time we started talking about potentially getting engaged, they flat out told me they would not be happy if we went through with it. I then told my bf that-

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

I felt it was best we put engagement on hold for a while because there were a lot of things we need to figure out and I wanted to consult a therapist about things I was beginning to notice more. Fast forward about 2-3 months (today) and I get this strong feeling-

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

That he was going to propose today. Things are not necessarily “bad” between us right now and I still don’t want to break his heart but the whole day I felt incredibly anxious knowing he was more than likely going to propose and surely enough about 2 hours ago he did.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Here’s where shit rlly hit the fan. I told myself if he did it that I knew it would hurt but I’d have to say no, so long as I felt comfortable enough to do it. The problem is that both his brother and his brother’s gf (who was taking pics and vids) were there for the whole thing. I completely panicked-

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

And naturally didn’t want to reject him in front of them and have this incredibly awkward moment where everyone got into our business, so I said yes. Now we’re officially engaged with a shit ton of proposal pics and vids despite the fact that I know in my heart we’re still not ready.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Anyways I doubt spilling this here will rlly do anything bc I know everyone will probably just say I did the wrong thing by saying yes (I know I did) but I’m just completely lost on what to do now. I’d feel horrible if I accepted and then told him the same day that I only did it to avoid making things awkward

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

But I also know if I delay being honest and stick the engagement out, things with my family are going to be rlly tense and I’m going to feel like I’m somewhat leading him on. I tell my parents everything tmrw and I’m feeling absolutely sick to my stomach over it. What would be the best route to take on this

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

I’m definitely gonna need a couple days to process it. I just rlly wish I could say with confidence that my talk with my parents tmrw isn’t gonna go horribly but I know I gotta tell them at some point

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Anonymous replying to -> dark_blue_freezing37 1d

Except she moved to Texas with him and then something happened as they were trying for a kid to mend their realationship or something

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