Anonymous OP 1d

gurl don’t be like that having confidence in an experience you’ve never had can be hard especially with something that can be tied to a lot of difficulty and pain for a lot of people

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Anonymous #1 1d

it’s not about being confident about the experience it’s about acting like you’re not a person yourself and you’re at the whim of his sexual desires. it gives low self esteem. why are you afraid to say you’re not ready for sex. could never be me I tell them straight up.

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Anonymous OP 1d

ion think anyone is trying to have low self esteem if everyone could have high self esteem i think we all would it’s just shits hard

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Anonymous #1 1d

if you’re scared to communicate that you’re not ready for sex you are not ready to be dating. period. that’s pathetic.

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Anonymous OP 1d

I think it also could be that they’re afraid of what would happen if they say no. Like they’re afraid of the man getting angry and resorting to violence, as a lot of (not all ofc) men do, so they’d rather just give in and say yes than get assaulted, yk? Obv this isn’t the case for everyone but it might be for a lot of people Idk if that’s necessarily true, but it is a possibility, so it might not be a confidence thing for everyone

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Anonymous #2 1d

Which is why a lot of feminists response to that possibility of violence behind saying no means we shouldn’t be dating or having sex with them at all. 🤷🏽‍♀️ and I agree. we can’t be coddling their feelings and simultaneously afraid for our lives at the same time. seriously.

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