Anonymous #1 4d

It’s nothing incredibly specific but each time issues woc face specifically are brought up or posts even acknowledging we have different experiences (I know bc I’ve made some of those posts) get downvoted to hell, has a lot of deflecting in the comments, or just blatant disregard for the fact that we experience misogyny differently. Or take whatever was happening a couple days/weeks ago on here with ppl being more outraged that a girl’s boyfriend assaulted a racist than the fact that the guy was

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Anonymous OP 4d

racist and little to no posts about that but a bunch about the retaliation. That’s a common pattern each time something about poc (regardless of the gender of the person) gets brought up here. I’ve also interacted with and seen multiple posts from other woc who have talked about how they left this sub bc of the microagressions either thrown at them or comments about poc to begin with or the obvious racial blind spots/privileged comments on here

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Anonymous OP 4d

i’m ngl as someone who’s seen those posts I think ppl were annoyed with the girl posting abt her boyfriend with the racist guy because she posted about the same situation like 3-4 times in one day and it was starting to seem like a troll just trying to get reactions

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Anonymous #2 3d

I’m aware, I agree, and I see that. That HOWEVER doesn’t change their reactions. Their reactions being more focused on the guy than the person posting it (which were what a lot of comments/posts were about) and only calling him the issue instead of the person provoking it is a problem. It’s clear based on who they’re focused on in the conversation. Ntm majority of the posts (bc I ended up blocking a few people on their posts) were dragging the guy who was targeted and nothing else

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Anonymous OP 3d

I have no idea about that but I’m mixed (black) and have posted about my experiences before and ppl don’t get it

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Anonymous #1 3d

And that’s what I mean. Bc I’ve posted before about misogynoir specifically and how it feels to be a black woman (the same way literally every other woman on here does) in this sub and the intersection of misogyny and racism that gets ignored and almost every single one of those posts were downvoted severely or met with a lot of resistance

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Anonymous OP 3d

Yeahh we def have different experiences like my white friends have it easier 100%. Even if you’re pretty it’s still harder for us. The states I get are insane

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Anonymous OP 3d

They’re already downvoting but as a fellow black woman I understand what you mean.

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Anonymous #1 3d

I think even with pretty privilege poc women can’t even reap the full benefits because of racism it’s crazy

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Anonymous #1 3d

Idk if you saw it but I have been watching ppl downvote the comments talking about how woc have different experiences (which is literally proving the point and something I already mentioned in one of my comments) but it’s clear we’re not supposed to acknowledge the difference in our treatment. I get what you’re saying though. I’ve had so many weird experiences with ppl I didn’t expect to have them with just bc I’m black and a woman and it happens so blatantly even in public (like the stares)

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Anonymous #3 3d

I saw it and thank you. I wasn’t sure whether to be annoyed bc ppl were proving the point in real time or laugh because I expect to be downvoted atp whenever bringing up how woc are treated specifically in any sub whether it’s race specific or gender specific bc this is almost always the reaction

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Anonymous OP 3d

The stares are so bad! And when ppl do approach it’s like they’re siphoning your energy or just can’t believe they could find a black women attractive it’s so weird

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Anonymous #3 3d

Like I’m pretty and have a lot of stuff going but never had a bf 😭 either stares or fetishized. I’m not full black either it must be even worse for them

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Anonymous #1 3d

Whether it’s worse depends on featurism/colorism bc I’ve def seen black women who have certain features get picked over mixed women

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Anonymous #3 3d

Yeah idk but in general I wan to be seen as a woman not a mythical creature or a sex object

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Anonymous #1 3d

I think most women of color feel the same way

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Anonymous #1 3d

And it’s something white women don’t really have to worry about

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Anonymous #3 3d

Yeah and even that can be different. It’s so easy for my white friend to get in relationships I know I’m desirable but it’s like the action from guys ain’t the same

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Anonymous #1 3d

And the crazy part is I know black women are desirable it’s just that we deal with misognynoir so even when ppl of other races find us attractive they can’t wrap their minds around it bc they frame of reference of attractiveness is Eurocentric based

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Anonymous #3 3d

Yes! It’s like they’re surprised or not sure if I’ll like them. Like talk to me? I’m a person? lol

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