Girl Talk on Yik Yak | “I miss my boy” but he is a fully grown man and you are a fully grown woman. You call him a boy to absolve him of responsibility for hurting you, but he calls you a girl to infantilize you and belittle your capabilities and thoughts.

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Girl Talk 17w

“I miss my boy” but he is a fully grown man and you are a fully grown woman. You call him a boy to absolve him of responsibility for hurting you, but he calls you a girl to infantilize you and belittle your capabilities and thoughts.

Anonymous 17w

this. and when people are like “that’s not a man that’s a boy.” SHUT THE FUCK UP. if we want to be literal, a boy is a minor. second, saying that takes away from the fact that we need to hold them accountable for their actions. if you’re college aged, you’re grown and you know better. grown ass men make shitty decisions. let’s be fr.

Anonymous 17w

idk, personally I don’t think it’s always bad sometimes it’s just cute and silly stuff

Anonymous

#1 17w

too many girls in this community infantilize their boyfriends and then wonder why their (shitty) bfs continue to treat them like shit and/or do the bare minimum. if you don’t have any emotional intelligence or self/situational awareness you shouldn’t be dating at all.

Anonymous

#1 17w

Fr, months after my ex broke up with me, he said that he was sorry and that he was just a “scared little boy” in order to justify his shitty actions and I genuinely laughed. You really mean to say you came back after so long only to make excuses and pretend you were a kid who didn’t know any better when you did those things??

Anonymous

OP 17w

That’s also when I realized calling me a girl repeatedly wasn’t so much affectionate as it was a weaponized word used to shrink me and blame me.

Anonymous

#2 17w

sometimes I call him my boy and he refers to me as “my girl” as a nickname occasionally but we’re still capable of having a healthy and mature relationship

Anonymous

#2 17w

I agree, often it’s cute and endearing. But you’ll know when it’s no longer cute and when it starts being used to guilt and avoid accountability

Anonymous

OP 17w

oh yeah of course

Anonymous

OP 17w

In my case he kept insisting that he was “just a boy” when he hurt me and I think that’s ridiculous. He was just as much of an adult age wise as I was — so why is it that I can accept the consequences of my actions but he believes he doesn’t have to?

Anonymous

OP 17w

No that’s so cringe “scared little boy” bro your a walking bafoon is what you are 😭