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Girl Talk 9w
my sister got engaged and the best opportunity to tell the family is this weekend but it’s my birthday/coming home party. everyone is telling me that it’s my day and it’s my choice but it would be so selfish to tell her not to tell people on that day
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Anonymous 9w

everyone just keeps looking at me and asking what i want to do and i don’t know! i don’t know. i want my sister and her awesome fiancé to be happy but i’ve been gone for work for so long and i didn’t even get to celebrate my actual birthday with anyone and it’s selfish of me but i would like a day. i can’t do that to her though

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Anonymous 9w

Tbh I feel like there’s other times they could announce it? The weekend was already planned for you. But if you’re ok with it and decide to go ahead with it, just a fair warning that the attention will shift to them. Also crazy that your family’s talking about you settling down when you’re only 21? Do that in your own time, it’s a big commitment and you wanna make sure it’s the right person to commit to

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 9w

they’re telling me it’s okay if i say no but i know it’s not and that my family and her fiancé would look at me differently if i said that. and on top of that i’m the only unmarried and no prospects one left in the family and i come from a very traditional midwestern family and am already fielding constant questions about when i’m going to date someone and settle down cause i’m getting older (i am 21…) and if people are told at my thing then that’s just going to get 100x worse

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 9w

i just want everyone to get out of my personal and stop putting me on the spot. i can’t handle it. my parents even pulled me aside to ask if i was okay with her telling people on the day and i just nodded bc i can’t really say anything else

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 9w

i really don’t want to give up this day though. it’s so childish but it’s mine and i’d like to have it. i said nothing when i had to move away from my school and all of my friends in highschool bc she failed out of college and it was my job to ‘put her on track’ bc that was my parents decision but i don’t want to keep having things taken from me yk? i feel like the biggest asshole in the world rn idk what to do

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