I’m so sorry about your endo! The combination pill has been great for my PMDD but I get the fear of starting something that your mom had a bad reaction to. For cramps I love the slimpal heating belt (someone on girl talk recommended it) because it has heat and vibration settings and the vibration especially helps with cramps. Good luck getting treatment! 💜
My mom has been dealing with endo her whole life, even with the pill it was still bad. They finally decided to try an IUD and she feels like her life has changed. One of my friends too. I think maybe you can try and ask for alternatives to the pill. Unfortunately we have to advocate for ourselves :(