
Love a man twice my age but some of the hate is warranted. I’ve met some FREAKS in a really bad way and it’s good to be cautious. People need to stop calling adult age gaps pedophilia though. It diminishes what pedophilia actually is and makes possible age gap issues look unserious. Adult grooming and age gap abuse is a different problem to be addressed. They both exist and are obviously bad and can play off each other but they’re not the same thing
I’m 20 with a 42 yr old fwb. But he genuinely didn’t realize my age when we started talking (we met online) and he had to have a sit down with himself about why he was attracted to me. Spoiler alert, it was NOT because of my age, and we’ve communicated boundaries and whatnot VERY clearly. So I feel it’s fine, even if it is unusual. And he’s SO good in bed sooo… I win anyway
I mean this person is right, although this individual is cussing and using degrading language which I understand it may bug some folks. Its the ideology of what that 40yr+ man is thinking. He isn’t willing to go after a woman who is the same age or yr younger/older than him. He wants a young woman who is fresh, good looking, no sags, etc. He doesn’t view women period as anything more than. Which why this person said “dumb woman who open their legs to the man”. The 40+ yr old men do not value-
I don’t see women as property I see marriage as a life long contract that both parties need to benefit from, a old women who does nothing but ask for Money and make u take care of her 3 kids from 2 different dads is not something most older men who built a career and have money want
No yall she’s got a point an age gap is insane but at least the older generations had class and there was an expectation to be a gentleman now that women have found freedom and individuality a lot of men have chosen to lose their masculinity in favor of bitterness and nonchalance towards women for finding peace for the first time in a patriarchal system so no wonder they pursue men that still give them the romantic prowess that Gen Z men seem to no longer embody
Dude, let people have their preferences. You can have your opinion, but it is true. Gen Z men act like children and expect their woman to go out of their way to do everything for men. Older men tend to be more generous and experienced, and can actually have a discussion of consent. They allow us to have boundaries and whatever else.
Yeah men of all ages see women as sex objects but older men have more outliers. Gen Z men cannot have advocated for women more thats just a lie 💀. The generation that causally calls us “females” and “foids”, acts disrespectful toward any women they arent attracted to, tells us we have a “victim complex” or it “happens to men too” anytime we talk about our issues. The only ones I’ve seen advocate for women are gay or when they see a MOC is the perpetrator.
Fr and before 25 your frontal lobe isnt even fully developed Plus 18 and anything over 23 imo is weird Ofc itd be different if it were a different age group but a fresh 18 y/o should not be in a relationship with anyone yearssss older than them unless they knew them for a hand full of years
They can’t handle not feeling morally superior. I’ve seen it so many times and they’re impossible to reason with. They call any relationship they don’t like pedophilia because everyone can agree CSA is deplorable. But it only shows they’ve never had to work with children that have gone through that or actually care as much as they claim because the impacts of CSA and a shitty age gap are incomparable
I’m not assuming anything lol, that’s literally what’s happening. You don’t find it weird that men old enough to be your dad are trying to have sex with you? It’s even worse when they HAVE children. You’ll understand at some point but by then you’ll have already gotten hurt by him… I’m literally not trying to be mean, I’m trying to tell you that it’s a bad idea and if always ends badly
Me finding something weird doesn’t make it immoral. It’s two consenting adults doing consensual things that really I shouldn’t have an opinion on. My best friend is seeing someone 30 years older than them. He has done nothing wrong by being with my friend. My friend is happy, and has been for over a year. Do I think it’s weird? A lil bit! Do I think there’s anything immoral abt it? No! Idgaf!
Except that literally is an assumption and a huge generalization from the assumption. Again, you seriously lack nuance. Do bad actors and toxic age gaps exist? 100%. Do perfectly healthy, supportive, and mutually beneficial age gaps exist? Also 100%. You’re not helping anyone by just saying “don’t do it” because if they’re gonna do it they’re gonna do it regardless of what you say. It’s more helpful to help teach people what values are present in healthy adult relationships no matter the gap
Girl it’s immoral for men to be predatory!! That’s literally what I’m trying to say. I understand wanting maturity but there’s a reason why women of the same age as these men don’t want them. It’s because there’s something wrong. Your friend mi gf t have a good guy, who knows but I’m telling you most of these men are into the whole “barely legal” thing and are into the fact that they have children around the same age as these women. I never said it should be illegal or forbidden
Girl bffr men kill women regardless of an age gap. The ages say more about murders than it does about age gap couples. Most prolific serial killers would have partners their ages but would kill people younger than them and we constantly see men murdering their same aged wives to start a new life so now what? I’ve read the divorce studies too and they all say there are more important factors than the age like communication skills, lifestyle, and social support