Anonymous #1 13w

I don’t understand why he’s talking about me being late because he struggles with that way more! He’ll be 10 minutes late to the doctor for no reason. taking an uber because he was late to the train. coming over at 12:30 when he said he was about to leave at 10. leaving work 30 minutes late when he said we’d meet after he’s done

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Anonymous #1 13w

it’s valid to share his feelings but it’s frustrating to me when it’s things that aren’t my fault or things im not doing. like ugh I was almost late to dinner with my parents bc we stopped for a snack. buddy YOU were hungry! reservation at 7 we left the place at 5:15 that is not on me. I do my best and I don’t know why I’m getting shit for it

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Anonymous OP 13w

i read this less as projecting and more as identifying that you both have the same problem, and it therefore compounds.

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Anonymous OP 13w

ah i get it, so it’s a pattern of him saying things like this instead of an isolated event. it’s possible (benefit of the doubt) that he doesn’t mean to blame you specifically when he says these things, although it comes across that way. i think he’s saying that you both struggle with punctuality, and when it comes to something he prioritizes and you don’t, he struggles to get there on time. like its an environmental thing almost. i don’t think he means to blame you for this, seems like he 1/2

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Anonymous #1 13w

2/2 recognizes that it’s a him problem. i can understand why you feel that way though, i think you should try to talk to him about it gently, using “i” statements, etc. to me it seems you guys are just having a communication misunderstanding, where you may be interpreting his words differently than he means them and he isn’t being very clear.

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Anonymous #2 13w

I think he wants to think that I have the same problem but I really don’t lol. Like that’s all it is 😭 anyway he apologized so it’s all good

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Anonymous #2 13w

he sat this

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Anonymous #1 13w

I told him im really sorry that I’ve been adding to his stress and I didn’t say anything about it being his own fault lol. even though it usually is. and that’s fine! just don’t put it on me. bc I really do not struggle with being late which is why I was sad and confused that he said that. I do get him feeling discombobulated when he’s at mine or when I sleep over tbf but I still try to keep his schedule and move him along even when he’s thrown off. But he said he is sorry. 🙏🙏

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