Anonymous #3 9w

How long did you know them?

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Anonymous #4 9w

Ah y’all are scaring me 😭

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Anonymous OP 9w

I didn’t know the girl before (she ended up being my coworker) but I think she had known them online for like a year at least

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Anonymous #3 9w

Do not do it girl. We are all reacting so badly because this is a bad idea. I am not saying your boyfriend is a bad boyfriend or person or whatever. But you simply cannot go from online contact only to living with someone

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Anonymous OP 9w

Good. Girl just go visit him this time. Don’t move in.

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Anonymous #3 9w

Especially if you have no support system in the place you’re moving! You will end up stuck with him even if you want to break up!

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Anonymous #5 9w

I’m not I’m so frl but I’m worried now

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Anonymous OP 9w

lemme ask you this, if a friend of your came to you and said i’m moving away to live with my long distance bf who i’ve never met and you’ve never met what would u tell her?

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Anonymous #5 9w

yours*

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Anonymous #5 9w

Yes I would be worried for her

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Anonymous OP 9w

I would even go visit multiple times, but that is a wonderful start

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Anonymous OP 9w

if you’d be worried for her you should be worried about yourself too, take caution in these situations

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Anonymous #3 9w

How long have yall known each other? Did you meet thru friends online or just randomly? Have you talked with any of his family ever

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Anonymous OP 9w

you need multiple visits at different times times, you coming to him, him coming to you, meeting friends and family, just 1 week isn’t enough

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Anonymous #3 9w

Just randomly, we’ve been talking for a year though and no I haven’t spoken to his family and he hasn’t spoken to mine either

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Anonymous #5 9w

I guess but I have no friends where I live and I’m really ready for a fresh start somewhere else where I can make friends and this is such a good opportunity for me.

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Anonymous OP 9w

In what world do you not expect to incur serious trauma from this?

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Anonymous OP 9w

I get that. I just don’t think there’s enough safeguards in place for you to safely and happily move in with him

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Anonymous bunniee 9w

I SWEAR on my life this isn’t fake like idk if I could convince you but it’s so my real life rn it’s not even funny

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Anonymous OP 9w

Yeah best of luck girl nobody can force you to see how genuinely stupid you sound for this

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Anonymous #6 9w

I don’t know guys my parents are literally in the strictest religion in the world and I lost all of my friends bc I left recently and idk what to do I’ve felt so alone here and just need a fresh start and he’s offering that to me idk what to do. I’m so depressed here.

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Anonymous OP 9w

“I would be worried for a friend if she did this” so what makes you the exception? Don’t be annoying

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Anonymous bunniee 9w

I’m not the exception. I am also worried for myself. Sorry I’m just trying to figure this out.

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Anonymous OP 9w

There are multiple steps to take before you even move to a different place let alone with someone you don’t know. Idc if you’ve talked for a year. Especially a man.

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Anonymous OP 9w

never place yourself in a situation to 100% depend on a man. if he cheats, abuses you, breaks up with you you’ll be shit out of luck if you can’t afford to move yourself back or even leave everything behind and just go home with nothing.

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Anonymous #5 9w

I believe my parents would let me come back and it’s my plan to work while I’m living with him and I have money saved up already. We’re both going to be away from family and friends so it’s not like he has a lot and I have nothing, it’s kinda like we both have nothing.

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Anonymous OP 9w

in a way that sounds even worse😭 so it’s possible yall will be struggling??

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Anonymous #5 9w

No I don’t mean nothing financially. We have money just not living around friends or family

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Anonymous OP 9w

Okay so that's good context, and I'm sorry. But you need to move out on your own. You're currently replacing one trauma for another imminent trauma and that's not going to help you get better.

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Anonymous #6 9w

What’s the upside to moving out on my own vs moving in with him? Like should I be worried he is manipulating me somehow? Or something will go wrong with us?

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Anonymous OP 9w

this is how you end up on dateline, do not do this!!

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Anonymous #8 9w

I just texted him about meeting each other’s families before we move in. I hope y’all approve idk what to do 😭

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Anonymous OP 9w

if you meet him and he seems good, move into an apartment in his town or near his town. that way you’re out of your parents circle but not directly relying on him to house you

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