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Why do men not yearn for women anymore. Serious debate
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Anonymous 15w

I think the internet, dating apps, porn, and in general jusf the illusion of having so many options. People are obsessed with having “hoes, rosters” whatever instead of just committing to getting to know someone.

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Anonymous 15w

Porn and consumerism

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Anonymous 15w

bcuz they got mad that we like gained rights lmao. we’re not as easily manipulated or influenced anymore, less malleable to their wants (aka less desirable to them bcuz they’re evil)

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Anonymous 15w

There’s a lot of different factors but I think porn and hookup culture are the main ones. Guys who are into hookup culture have the goal of having sex with as many women as possible instead of just focusing on loving one. And whether it’s conscious or not porn use instills the idea in men’s brains that women are meant to go away after sex and that they’re expendable

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Anonymous 15w

Some do but a lot less, from what I’ve seen, I do also think there probably used to be more men who just pretended to yearn because they knew that’s what we wanted

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Anonymous 15w

because they know they don't deserve women

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 15w

actually that’s a little extreme but oh well still kind of true

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 15w

It just blows my mind how we went from men being men and yearning for a women now to messed up dating culture and guys not caring or doing the bare minimum

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15w

it’s sad fr. another thing is people of either gender have gotten really obsessed with labels. so many relationships now end over the “what are we” conversation. it’s like everybody is scared to commit :/

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 15w

I mean it’s not just committing. I’ve been with my bf for almost 2 years and he doesn’t yearn for me like a dominate man should. Why are men not being dominate anymore!?! Why are they not fulfilling their purpose!?!? ITS WHAT THEY WERE MADE FOR

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15w

i never think of dominance and yearning/love as going hand and hand honestly. i think of yearning as strong but gentle expression of longing. male dominance is going away bcuz of shifts in gender roles, but now idk what they are, bcuz they aren’t really gentle/loving people either. idk it’s an odd time fr lol

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