Anonymous #1 12w

I’m the same as OP and I would say I would want my children to be able to have a choice. I would not prevent my spouse from teaching my children about their religion, but I also would give my children options or the option to not be religious at all or the option to just stay curious

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Anonymous #1 12w

we agreed our future kids would be baptized, would go to church with us if we went as a family (i went bc it was important to him but not every week). but once they reach the age they can make the choice informedly, the choice is theirs. if they want to be religious they can be, if they dont they dont have to. and theyll always be able to change their mind and be accepted no matter the religion. that seemed fair.

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Anonymous #5 12w

And I’m Christian!!

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Anonymous #4 12w

well thats not true, and i know that, because my uncle is the pastor of a church in arkansas, my cousin was raised in the church and is religious to this day. her husband of 20 years is not. and he is accepted with warmth as part of our family. its possible but it requires acceptance on BOTH sides.

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Anonymous OP 12w

See that’s so rare. A fundamental part of marriage for Christians is the faith

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Anonymous #5 12w

it is. i was also raised christian. and from what i heard it took a while. but they way my uncle put it to me was along the lines of “they see the love of jesus in the way he loves her whether he knows it or not”. its rare but its possible, so why rule it out ykwim

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Anonymous OP 12w

I just know most Christians don’t have the ability or just don’t want to have to fight for that in their marriage. I think that’s ok!

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Anonymous OP 12w

Well yeah never was meant in exaggeration. Yes it works for some but not most. There’s outliers. But like I said most relationships work out when both ppl have the same beliefs. My parents are both religious but different denominations and it causes many fights

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Anonymous #4 12w

honestly if two people of two different religions want to get married that’s their choice. sometimes it can work out it just depends. i’m tired of this being said because then when people decide not to marry someone religious we get yelled at. yk?

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Anonymous #2 12w

I’m not saying it’s not their choice. I’m giving realistic caution. And if someone is yelling at u to not marry religious then they can go shove it where the sun doesn’t shine. My bf was raised catholic and I was raised Protestant. Reason why we get along is we both don’t really like going to church and self govern our relationship w religion.

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Anonymous #2 12w

And this isn’t me back tracking my statements. I’m giving an example of how we both see the same eye to eye on religion despite being from different denominations

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Anonymous #4 12w

no, I mean religious people will turn around and get mad at you for not wanting to marry someone religious or get mad at you because you want to marry someone religious if you aren’t religious to begin with.

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Anonymous #2 12w

like it really shouldn’t matter because it’s not anyone else’s business.

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Anonymous #2 12w

Yeah I agree w you

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Anonymous #1 12w

My parents did this. Their rule was we had to give church a try until we were 12 and then we could decide. My brother ended up atheist and I ended up religious so I’d say it worked out pretty well lol

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