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I’ll write it here because I have no one I can safely tell I don’t want my boyfriend sexually. I love him, and I want him to be in my life forever. But I hate how I look, and he isn’t really physically attractive either, and I have no idea what to do :(
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Anonymous 1w

depends if you need sex to be happy in your relationship! I've been with my bf for over 3 years (objectively we are both hot so not same issue) but have never had sex, not that we don't have sex drives but it's just not something that's important for us to have a healthy functioning relationship. plenty of my friends are like this as well, there's a trend online about being super sex positive and talking about it which is great but it also creates a narrative that everyone needs it to be happy

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

Him and I have been together for a little over 3 years as well, and we had a higher sex drive in the beginning, but now it’s like I crave it when I’m by myself, but with him it’s not even on my mind. We’re also mildly long distance, but it was like this before I came to college. I’ve gained quite a bit of weight since we started dating, and he has too. I just can’t bring myself to be attracted to him, myself, or the idea of us together sexually

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Before you make any rash decisions think if you'd still feel this way if you both lost weight, would you be attracted to him again? Or is it him in general that you don't feel attracted to anymore, because that is overall something that should be important but weight can be lost if that's all it is. It's a hard conversation to have and a hard thought to deal with, but try and see if he feels the same way, if you both love each other and see a future you should want each other to get healthier

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

I think I would be attracted to us if we lost weight. Working out has become one of those things that we talk about doing but never do. Hopefully, I can convince him to work on it with me. Thanks for the late night chat stranger, I like your thought process. 🫶

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