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Girl Talk 9w
Been talking to this guy he was very affectionate, sweet with words, good intimacy and then we started dating and he’s kind of shifted? Asked him about it we’re gonna talk in a bit ? Don’t think ive done anything? Any advice for anti anxiety?
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Anonymous 9w

Deep breaths, talking will help, just remind yourself that it will all be okay, this isn’t life or death Go into the convo with specific examples (not just “things have shifted”) tell him what specifically has shifted. Remind yourself you haven’t done anything wrong

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Anonymous 9w

use i statements as well like “when this happens, i feel” to try to use less blaming language. i hope it goes well but unfortunately this is a pattern many men have. they start taking you for granted

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Anonymous 9w

Thank you

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 9w

I discussed it

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 9w

Wants to talk later

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 9w

Cold feet and what not :/

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 9w

ugh yeah i’m sorry :( at the end of the day you can’t change or control him, he will do what he wants to do. you can only control your choices. it’s heartbreaking though. but if nothing changes or he gets super defensive and doesn’t hear you out, the only thing you can do is leave and find someone who will treat you better

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