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Girl Talk 14h
I don’t know how to feel about this, but I don’t love my boyfriend as much as I loved my ex. We’ve been together almost four years, but I don’t feel the intense, achey love I felt for my ex. Advice?
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Anonymous 14h

My ex is dead btw, so don’t hurt my feelings by suggesting I get back with him 😭

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Anonymous 13h

I didn’t realize he was dead and was gonna literally suggest you get back w him. So so sorry for your loss 🩷

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Anonymous 14h

Your current guy is a placeholder bf and you secretly know that. Best thing for you is to open your eyes to other prospects and bail when the time comes

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Anonymous 13h

Am genuinely terrified of my bf thinking this about me. His ex died last year. He never talks about her thankfully (I say that because ik I’d be sick) and I’m the first person he’s been with since they died. I’m scared I’m a placeholder. I’m scared deep down he’ll never love me as much as her. I’m scared that he’d choose her over me. I’m gonna go vomit from anxiety now

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Anonymous 13h

When someone passes away that you loved so deeply, I don’t think you ever really stop loving them. That doesn’t mean that you don’t love your boyfriend imo. It’s not just a feeling but a choice. Love (imo) lies in the actions and not the words and feelings. Idk, that’s just me tho girl

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 13h

I’m so sorry if this triggered you. Sending you love

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 13h

I wish I could sister

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 13h

I’m really scared of what it’ll do to him and that I’ll never find anyone else

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13h

He’ll always be with u and Im sure hes watching over you <3

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 13h

Literally had a dream about him last night and he just held me while I cried and asked him why he left. I’ve been so sad all day

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13h

it’s okay I’m just extremely anxious I have bad anxiety. Am I just a placeholder?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13h

He’s definitely your angel forever

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 13h

I seriously doubt that. I don’t see my boyfriend that way. I love him very very much and I don’t know what my life would look like without him

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13h

I don’t even know if that’s something I want

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13h

But I’m scared I’m just a replacement and he loves her more deep down. Ik it’s selfish but I just want him completely to myself

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 12h

I guess what I’m trying to say is if you feel like your current boyfriend is holding you back, that’s one thing. But the fluttery feelings aren’t required for a long-term relationship. And I am sure that your ex would want you to be happy. 💖

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