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how do you deal with jealousy? it's manifesting as an anger with nowhere to go for me — the people i'm jealous of have done nothing wrong and being mad at them doesn't make sense
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Anonymous 4d

reminding myself that i don’t know them or their life. just because it seems perfect to me doesn’t mean it actually is. everyone has their own shit to deal with, and i have things i’m blessed with too. jealousy is not so much about the other person and more about my own insecurities, so the things im jealous of in them are the wounds i need to nurture in myself the most

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Anonymous 4d

Jealousy can be tough but honestly if they’ve done nothing wrong do you have a real reason to be jealous or is it because something happened to them or because they seem to have a “better” life then you that you feel resentment towards them because yall aren’t the same?

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Anonymous 4d

honestly therapy tbh

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4d

i'm very jealous of my best friend because he gets to spend a lot of time with his partner. i only get to see my boyfriend once or twice a year due to distance and school. my friend has done nothing wrong by spending time with his partner and has never been a jerk about it, so i feel guilty for being so upset and jealous

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4d

i mean i do in this situation 😔 but i appreciate your comment, that can be a very good mindset for other jealousy situations!!

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4d

my friend knows about it, my boyfriend knows about it, they're both very understanding of the situation and i'm trying to get back into therapy to deal with it. i just don't want to lash out at anyone undeservingly ig

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 4d

i have a consultation on wednesday 🤞

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4d

I don’t think you should feel guilty especially if you’re trying to get back into therapy for it but it seems like you just have distance in your relationship and your friend doesn’t which is hard I know but sometimes you can be mad or upset but remember it’s NEVER the person it’s always the situation and then you won’t lash out on them

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4d

yeah, i don't blame him at all, obviously he's not doing anything wrong 😭 it's just such a weird feeling to have anger with no direction i guess

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

but you don’t really! you don’t know their inner world or the things they don’t tell you

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