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Girl Talk 22w
so my bf of over three years hasn’t told me happy birthday, and he’s awake, and driving around…….., what do i do. Last night he told me I should some “self reflection” because I said i had to be with my family tn.. help 😔
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Anonymous 22w

Break up now, that’s all i can say. No amount of talking is gonna fix a man who never cared in the first place

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Anonymous 22w

So he’s being petty bc you had plans with your family and not him😭. Like sorry sir you dropped this 🍼

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Anonymous 22w

Sorry self reflection over spending time with your family on your birthday is actually crazy ? What does he expect??

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Anonymous 22w

Bye no man is worth this disrespect, wake up and break up

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Anonymous 22w

I mean…. Why couldn’t he be with your finding for ur bday? If you’ve been together for 3 years obviously that’s gonna feel disrespectful to ur bf

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 22w

i said MAYBE we’d be able to do dinner tn. MAYBE. but my grandma already made plans for us and she’s older.. I can’t tell her to cancel

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 22w

might have to 🥳

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 22w

Yeah honestly idk him ik he’s probably great sometimes but I would leave him over this alone fr

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 22w

Not might, going to

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 22w

U right

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 22w

He basically gave you an ultimatum “it’s me or your family” and that’s a huuuge red flag

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 22w

Everyone saying breakup without even thinking from the other party’s perspective. If u have a good relationship or one worth being in for 3 years that’s just irrational and sabotaging behavior.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 22w

My grandma is pushing 90, and she made plans for us to go to dinner. I can’t tell her to cancel those plans especially at her age. It was already a struggle for her to call the restaurant by herself

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 22w

you couldn’t bring him to dinner?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 22w

I mean it’s very obvious ur bf will not feel prioritized and if ur not being prioritized in a relationship ur gonna understandably be very disrespected

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 22w

I never told him 100% yes we’d be getting that dinner that same night. I made it very clear when we first started dating my family always came first

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 22w

Like if ur bf told you he’s not seeing you on his bday I’m sure you wouldn’t like that. The fact that he’s rethinking the relationship means he recognizes a lot

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 22w

If he said he was having a family dinner I’d 100% support that and reschedule. If we already had plans I’d be slightly upset but it would be NBD to change plans

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 22w

Sometimes things are family only. If she clarified the boyfriend should be able to respect that nicely. Me and my boyfriend have had these circumstances multiple times and none of us judge eachother because family comes first

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 22w

Well that’s interesting. You should probably tell him that then maybe he’ll rethink differently. If he’s always known your family came first that’s fine too, knowing he’s not the priority already. Best of luck

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 22w

No one should ever put their boyfriend first and any boyfriend who thinks they’re put first in any girls life is delusional

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 22w

Idk I got married cuz we put each other first but obv stuck with family as well. We all know each other, we went to each others family dinners, etc

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 22w

Like if ur not being put first as a girl or as a guy what’s even the point why even be together

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 22w

It’s a balancing act there are times when family comes first and both people in the relationship should have those boundaries communicated. She communicated that family was more important in this instance and he acted like a whiny baby. It rlly is that simple.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 22w

If you put your husband before your mom, dad and siblings, there’s a problem with you When you date you date because you love them, not because you worship the ground they stand on It’s moronic to put your significant other before your family

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 22w

Like #1 it’s balance, if there’s no balance than it’s not gonna work out

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