Anonymous #3 3w

i think i would give my kid up if they had disabilities which is why i’m not having them. i cannot handle a ND child as someone who is ND myself and i will say it with my chest.

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Anonymous #3 3w

it’s the hard acceptance of being a parent. literally anything can happen but you have to be willing to take it before you go in. if not, then maybe kids isn’t right for you

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Anonymous #5 3w

i can see where she’s coming from. there are parents out there that regret having kids due to unexpected disabilities bc they can’t mentally or emotionally handle it… then you’re also hated on for putting them in a care home while trying to protect your mental sanity and health.

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Anonymous #4 3w

i followed a girl on tiktok who had two kids with disabilities to where they couldn’t speak, walk, or talk. she said it was like a feeling of relief when they passed on knowing the burden isn’t on her anymore. i think a lot more people need to realize how depressing it can be raising a kid that relies on you 24/7 with no motor skills, no communication, etc. people won’t admit that and the few that will are the ones that always keep it real and i don’t blame them for feeling the way they do.

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Anonymous OP 3w

But u should have considered that before having kids

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Anonymous #6 3w

i understand that. i can see both sides. some parents think they can handle things and they are sure they can, but sometimes that feeling can change if they are already here and that’s okay too. obviously they should treat their children with love and respect regardless of outcome.

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Anonymous OP 3w

Yeah, I guess giving up a child is better than giving it a bad life, but I feel like most of these instances are instances of the parent not planning appropriately

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Anonymous #6 3w

that but i also feel like not being able to mentally handle raising a child as such is also valid. we have to consider the wellbeing of the parent and the child which is why i can understand why some parents give up their kids to care homes while still being able to visit and see them. maybe i’m too empathetic but the feelings of parents shouldn’t be neglected either.

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Anonymous #8 3w

i have no desire to be a mom but even if i wanted to be one i have too many genetic issues

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Anonymous OP 3w

understandable, i applaud when people recognize its better not to pass down genes that diminish quality of life. I don’t want to put my child through what I go through everyday and I wish that’s how others saw it too

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Anonymous #9 2w

i made up my mind at 11-12 years old and i’m 23 now. i’m getting a genetic test for a cancer gene next year, and if i have it i’m getting a hysterectomy asap. (the gene increases my risk of uterine, ovarian, and cervical cancer by 70%).

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Anonymous OP 2w

I also have celiac disease and I gotta live with this for the rest of my life. Not smth I’d want to pass down to my child. I don’t wanna see them struggling w it

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