Anonymous generalkenobi 11w

God forbid asexual people exist

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Anonymous #4 11w

… i don’t necessarily think sex is the most important thing to marriage by any means but i also don’t think i like ur therapist.

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Anonymous #4 11w

It’s us not being sexually satisfied that is more likely to be an issue than the man anyway

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Anonymous #5 11w

We went more in depth w it, I can’t put a 1 hour session into a few sentences.

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Anonymous #6 11w

Yeah we talked about that. But that’s what communication is for.

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Anonymous #5 11w

Also we were talking in the context of some of the negative things ppl said to me when I was waiting til marriage

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Anonymous #4 11w

i just think it’s unprofessional to imply that men will just fuck whatever is in front of them & be happy about it. it’s the belittling language that is fine amongst friends but not with someone who you hired to help you process your thoughts in a healthier way.

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Anonymous #5 11w

She meant as in when I’m married and with a partner I trust he will be happy to be with me in that moment and not care about me being inexperienced, wanting more boundaries or requests. Also she’s been my therapist for years and I like her because she’s more down to earth. The more “clinical” ones I’ve seasoned w when she needed a sub just felt like I was at a doctors appointment

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Anonymous #4 11w

Had sessions with*

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Guys i promise my therapist is fine. This is literally one situation w very limited context bc obv therapy sessions are extremely personal. I clarified what she meant. I know what she meant and the meaning behind it. Trust me it’s not a “all men” generalizing statement. If she had beliefs like that then they def would have been clear and expressed w certain conversations and I def wouldn’t be continuing sessions w her. This is my therapist that I have had for years, and not yours.

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Anonymous #4 11w

“Hunny, men are just happy to be there,” which you chose to put in quotation marks, is just an unflattering portrayal of her. That’s all.

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Anonymous #5 11w

And i clarified what she ment.

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Anonymous #5 11w

Like I didn’t mean for the quote to come off that way. I didn’t put the right context so then I filled in context

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Anonymous #4 11w

I’m not arguing that ur therapist is awful or smth I’m just explaining why people had a reaction to ur comment

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Anonymous #5 11w

Ik it was a miswording. I’m sorry if my two replies didn’t come off as sincere

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Anonymous #3 11w

same girl😛😛

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Anonymous #15 11w

comfortable just bc you have something against virginity???

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omg your rage bait is so subtle and special 🫶🫶

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i don’t think that it’s “special.” i think there are plenty of things that make me special, but not the virginity itself. maybe my reasons behind it, but i’d hope that my partner doesn’t value my virginity that much that he’d love me any less if i wasn’t a virgin

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just bc people have sex doesn’t mean they lack self control… i’m so close to blocking you ngl.

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Anonymous #10 11w

i’m not comparing anything

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Anonymous OP 11w

they’re just rage baiting. i doubt they actually believe any of the shit they’re saying. they just want to get ppl mad

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Anonymous OP 11w

You said “just as bad.” That’s a comparison.

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He is very respectful of my choice! I am extremely lucky! But we did use condoms, he pulled out (to be safe), was on birth control, and I even took plan b everytime we had sex. Im pretty sure it’s just my insane anxiety, but I’d rather be safe than sorry

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Anonymous #10 11w

i mean i will stand on business tho. i don’t think you should be shaming anyone for being a virgin or not being a virgin. shaming someone is wrong and holds the same weight esp when it comes to sex or lack thereof.

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Anonymous OP 11w

Again, I said I won’t disagree that it’s bad in and of itself. Where I disagreed is the comparison. It is absolutely not as bad to bully someone for being a virgin when women are and have been killed over even the slightest accusation of having sex outside marriage. Two things can be true, but not equally grave.

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Anonymous #10 11w

I mean I feel like ur comment doesn’t have a point. Bc op said “why are you assuming people who don’t have sex are enforcing purity culture.” And for u to tie it to purity culture kinda proves op’s point. Also women wanting to keep their purity have also been raped and killed for not wanting to put out. Violence from men is a horrible blanket that covers every culture of women. The same way men have persecuted women for not conforming to purity culture.

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Anonymous #10 11w

i’m not equaling them tho? i’m also not talking about SA/rape or killing someone over their virginity. i’m talking about the basic bullying someone for it. you’re bringing up an entirely different conversation.

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Anonymous #4 11w

THANK YOU. i’m also not talking about people getting killed for this? not that it doesn’t happen but i never brought that up. the whataboutism is driving me insane.

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Anonymous OP 11w

Exactly ur just talking about being shamed and bullied. Which definitely is a thing. Nothing to do w purity culture or violence but social riddle.

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Anonymous OP 11w

also you can get killed by not having or having your virginity… which is on the people who harm others. it has nothing to do with virginity status imo. rapists don’t care if you’re a virgin or not

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Anonymous #3 11w

twins ! 😛

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Anonymous #10 11w

Kinda off and on topic but I think the virginity argument is because humans are jealous creatures and men especially can be possessive. I’ve always thought it’s weird a man can’t see that I don’t have sex because all he sees are my past boyfriends, therefore he is jealous of the thought and potential I could’ve had sex with them, even though I am a virgin and state it clearly I am and plan to stay that way as a personal preference. This has happened so many times it’s sad but makes me laugh now.

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Anonymous generalkenobi 11w

Imo sex is booooring and I don’t even screw with men so I could care less what they say. They can’t even make girls finish.

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