for me what helped was knowing that literally nothing changes about me or my body based on having sex. and it’s no one’s business but mine anyway

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girl i’m your age with 17 bodies. Whether they were just dumb ideas with a lesson to learn or ppl that changed my life, i own it and don’t regret even my mistakes. It’s alllll abt finding out who you are and what you want :)

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I literally just don’t think about it. That’s probably not helpful but I pay no mind bc it means less than nothing to me. I guess maybe start by figuring out why it’s bothersome to you

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i'm 20 and have only had s*x w my current boyfriend but i don't really think we'll end up married and i already feel preemptively guilty about it ☠️☠️

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How many people have you hugged? How many people have you exchanged cash with? How many people’s houses have you been in? Don’t know? It’s because it doesn’t matter. Yes, the number exists, but no one is tracking it and it doesn’t affect anything. The only reason body count weighs on you is because someone said it should. As long as you’re being safe, consensual, and enjoying yourself, it literally does not matter.

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honestly i just don’t really care what mine is? the only person that can shame me for it is someone else if they want to and even then i still dgaf

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for me when i notice negative thoughts i just tell myself "so what" the goal isn't to reassure myself of one thing or another but to just accept myself regardless of criticism

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ugh i love you guys thank you

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I didn’t have my first boyfriend until I was 21 and now I’m 22 and he’s the only person I’ve had sex with. I know some people who have a higher body count and aren’t happy and some that are, some who haven’t had sex and are good with it, and others who are upset about it. As long as you are happy with your choices, don’t just have sex because you feel pressured too, but if you want to and you feel empowered and it makes you happy, go for it

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