I was hardcore liberal for most of my life, grew up in a super liberal area. around getting to college I started to realize that most of the people around me didn’t actually care about others or what anyone else thought - every rally, every unsourced instagram infographic, every story was just about feeling better about themselves. every week there was a new group or person to hate and cancel because they used the wrong pronoun once by accident or chose not to speak up about some political thing
this kind of started me questioning things, but two things happened in college that got me: 1, my first roommate told me to my face she hated me because I was white and she would refuse to speak to me. her friends all knew this and ignored me whenever they were in the room. I grew up learning from others at school that any POC deserves much more than what they have because of the effects of systemic racism, and that only they can be victims of racial bias. so I never reported to my POC RA.
the second thing: a few roommates later, I shared a duplex with a different girl. she would regularly blast music until 1-2am on random weeknights. I asked her as nicely as I could if she could play the music quieter after like 1 since I had 8am classes, and my meds don’t work if I don’t sleep enough. she ignored me. the second time I asked, she came into my room and screamed at me and told me I was a horrible person, would never go anywhere in life, and that I should kill myself. I moved out-
the next day. didn’t say anything, if people asked why I just said I just wanted to live somewhere quieter, and that it was nothing personal. note that she was black. in that coming week, I noticed people had stopped talking to me. like a lot of people. come to find out she had told the entire campus I was a disgusting racist who hated her because she was black. the amount of people I knew who prided themselves on caring about everyone no matter how they look etc who just turned on me-
I am so deadass with you dude. I have no reason to lie about it, I’m not trying to convince anyone to switch over - I’m still closer to moderate than anything else. just answering the question with my lived experience- I thought for so long that no one could think like this or weaponize identities like that, but the sad truth is that they can. it’s not the most common thing ever, but it can and does still happen.