The men are definitely projecting their fear, I’ve never felt afraid when i see posts of men describing our “biggest fear” of loneliness. But I do feel afraid when I see posts of women talking about “married single mom” or “all the things he did while cheating” (and it’s all these cute memories then fast forward to her crying) or when a woman’s pregnant and the dude starts berating her about how “hard it’s been for him”.
no, the fear is going through something so horrible. yes they will be alone, but the fear is going through that effort just to feel unloved. like two ppl losing weight. one person for health reasons, one for vanity. they’re both gonna end up smaller, but the fear for one person is being unhealthy and the fear of other is wanting more attention.