You're not overreacting at all. He went out of his way to break *your* boundaries in addition to the boundaries that come with a space dedicated to keeping people safe from dangerous men. That kind of obsessiveness to intrude into that space to check on the people close to him is really fucking concerning. People tend to associate and be friends with people similar to them, so.... Your safety and well-being comes above everything else. Trust yourself
1. Birds of a feather flock together. If all his friends cheat then I would assume he’s okay w it if not doing it himself 2. His eagerness to be in women’s only spaces is worrisome for a multitude of reasons 3. He’s not respecting ur boundaries of “no” 4. The app is being hacked & women’s addresses are being uploaded to a searchable map by incels. He’s putting ur safety at risk