Force yourself to step out of your comfort zone. If you do it often enough, eventually you might find yourself craving adventure. Someone famous once said (I’m paraphrasing because I’m too lazy to find the exact quote) to not accept criticism from anyone you wouldn’t go to for advice. Taking that quote as advice helped my confidence a LOT. I can’t exactly help you with the hot part, as though I do have a couple of boys trying to woo me at my uni, I’m regarded as adorable, not hot.

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