Anonymous #3 11w

oh that’s second cousins my bad. idk then

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Anonymous #1 11w

so it would actually be 4th cousins but 🥲

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Anonymous #3 11w

no it is 4th cousins you’re right, it’s 5 generations removed and they never talked socially. But still 🥲

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Anonymous cyborgirl 11w

girl I fucking wish

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Anonymous #6 11w

For example my grandfather would introduce his best friend as his cousin (not in a joking way but full on man considered him his cousin) and I did not even know they weren’t related till years later

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Anonymous #6 11w

from what we’ve heard, it was the great grandpas that were cousins. That would be 4th cousins and basically little to no blood relation according to my Google searching. They never really talked to each other, I don’t think our families intersected at all at events or funerals or whatever. Everyone in our lives is saying it’s no big deal, but it freaks me out like socially

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Anonymous OP 11w

let me clarify- “little to no” makes it sound worse but basically “as much blood relation as you may have with a strangers DNA” bc most people do share small genetic similarities wether you’re related or not

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Anonymous OP 11w

Yea I understand the social aspect but if you guys are serious and doesnt affect how you feel about eachother it isnt anyones buisness. Like if yalls families have literally never interacted and it was so many generations back i mean that doesnt seem bad to me. Now if yall were first cousins who hung out every summer and your got together that where i would be like woah umm what?

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Anonymous OP 11w

Yea, it was so many generations ago that is a lot of new genes coming in, if you guys were considering to have children then I think it might be worth to check the dna to be on the safe side

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Anonymous OP 11w

there's millions and billions of ppl out there who have zero familial relation to u, even 4th is too close to rationalize being in a relationship im sry.

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Anonymous #7 11w

Talking with his grandpa and he mentioned that he has distant cousins with a similar last name, and he described them and it is literally my grandpas family. He’s obviously older tho so we got clarification that it was the great grandparents that were cousins and not them. Maybe even farther back I’m not too sure. But it’s not like our families hangout or associate with eachother

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Anonymous #1 11w

no yeah it definitely isn’t preferred

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Anonymous #8 11w

yes the great grandparents are cousins (although his grandpa said they were never close or really talked with them) therefore we basically share a great-great-great grandparent on one side. So 4th cousins 5 times removed. Genetically okay but socially freaking me out

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Anonymous OP 11w

if it's freaking u out then listen to urself and end it. this isn't a haha hehe fun fact this is something ud probably be embarassed to tell ppl abt which is probably a sign yall shouldn't be dating

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Anonymous #1 11w

alright girl chill I said it’s freaking me out socially. none of our family’s are freaked out and no one in our lives really care. I just found this out yesterday so I’m trying to process. I appreciate your opinion on it ty

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Anonymous #9 11w

thank you, this is very helpful 🙏🏼

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Anonymous #10 11w

I feel better, but still obviously not happy but ultimately I don’t think I’m gonna breakup. We think it’s even further now after doing more digging (like 5th/7th cousins), no on in our families or friends really seems to care since no one knew to begin with and our families have never interacted or acted like families. Theres no blood relation/DNA relation this far out, and my friend and others here made a good point, if you look far enough back you’ll probably find connect with anyone 🤷‍♀️

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Anonymous OP 11w

If there isn’t any blood relation then it really just depends on what you all think about it. Society will always have opinions about anything and everything but if you or he are uncomfortable then that’s your conversation to have. Ultimately no not incestuous but I can also understand it being grounds for break up

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Anonymous OP 11w

GIRL YES! I am so glad you are staying with him 😌 Its so hard to find good men these days

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Anonymous #10 11w

I can’t tell if this is sarcastic or not due to other peoples comments on here- but thank you if it is not! 😅🫠

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Anonymous OP 11w

Its not sarcastic Im being genuine 😌 Also I have not read the other comments tho. I only read #8's most recent comment since it was under mine

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