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Girl Talk 9w
the most life changing moment of my 22 years of life was realizing that everyone was right when they said i was just like my dad….i hate my dad.
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Girl Talk 9w
try as I might I am still as crazy as my fucking mother and I hate it.
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Anonymous 9w

immediately got my first therapy appointment and tried to change my behaviors bc if thats what it gave, thats not who i wanted to be AT ALL

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Anonymous 9w

Idk I feel like the most important part is the self awareness. I know I have the capacity to act like my father and i actively try not to even tho it’s like programmed into me. He, however, does not see his behavior as problematic so it’s worse

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 9w

Ya that’s what I need to do fr, it’s like a catch 22 for me bc I have trouble openly acknowledging my personal failings and weaknesses and specifically how they affect other ppl (which is what my mom does) bc those were always weaponized against me growing up (by my mom) but that’s literally what therapy is so 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 9w

The thing I need to unlearn prevents me from doing the thing I need to do to unlearn it 🫠

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 9w

thats where i am now, after making that realization. i catch myself all the time and redirect, because i refuse to be his grown age and treating people the way he does, not caring, and making no effort to fix it despite the fact that be was the common denominator in the comingapartedness of his life. im so glad i can see it now and fix it and not have to live like that. we breaking generational curses round here🫡

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 9w

its soooo hard. personally, it took my entire life falling apart and looking around at the mess, to be able to start rebuilding a better house for myself. and i cant put the ppl i hurt in that house, but i cant put let them know im sorry and they’re always welcome to stay when they’re ready.

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