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is it wrong that the only reason i want to date/get a boyfriend is bc i want kids and i want the kids to have a present father 😭 if being a mother wasn’t my dream then id probably be happily single my whole life
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Anonymous 1d

be so careful this was my mom’s dream and she picked a guy she thought would be a good dad even if she didn’t love him and he ended up being awful. i don’t even talk to him anymroe

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Anonymous 1d

pls be so careful w/ this. whatever you model w/ your partner will have a significant impact on your kids. if y’all don’t actually have feelings for each other, that can be damaging to your kids’ perception of what a normal relationship is (speaking from experience lol)

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Anonymous 1d

I don’t think it’s wrong to want a happy family

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Anonymous 1d

yea kinda tbh

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

yeah that’s very much what i worry about. i want to be in love with the guy i have children with, of course. i think what im trying to say is, yes, i want to find love, but having my own kids is the goal so im mainly looking at their potential as a father, whether thats their genes/looks or personality. with that being said, im not out here hooking up w randoms or trying to baby trap a guy 😭💀. i am someone who grew up in a loveless marriage and my father wasn’t super present, so i def want to

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

avoid that. i think im just saying that a how i look at dating. like are u going to be a good dad is mainly my concern. not getting into a relationship just to have kids, which i realize reading back what i said is kinda how it sounds. my bad 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7h

ohhh ok I gotcha, it makes sense that if you know you wants kids then you’d wanna make sure whoever you get with is good dad material. just don’t let yourself settle for someone you’re not truly happy with just based off the fact you think they’d be a good dad

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