swimreaper on Yik Yak | These comments make me a lil sad ngl. Like we spend so much time judging every little flaw of ours that we forget to appreciate our beauty and dismiss it when someone else appreciates it :/

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swimreaper

These comments make me a lil sad ngl. Like we spend so much time judging every little flaw of ours that we forget to appreciate our beauty and dismiss it when someone else appreciates it :/

Anonymous 7w

I understand where you’re coming from about appreciating beauty but a lot of times these comments are only left under mid/plus sized women’s posts so it can feel disingenuous when thinner women are just called pretty whereas bigger women will receive comments like this as if they too can’t just be called pretty

Anonymous 7w

Yeah what #1 said, conventionally attractive girls just get called pretty, gorgeous, etc. but when it’s someone outside the beauty standard it’s always either trying too hard to come up with a compliment or straight up backhanded. “Omggg you look so unique like the queen of an alien planet!!” Just say what you mean and call me chopped atp

Anonymous 7w

And I mean someone else appreciating it like for example the statues at museums or (I like to draw and went to art school so I focus on features that stand out to me) I’ll see the way someone’s facial structure is and how they all compliment each other and I’m like they’re so pretty and I wanna tell them I just don’t know how to not sound weird so I don’t say anything and just leave it as a thought and go on w my day

Anonymous 7w

Nah I fuck with it as a fat bitch bcos it’s nice and also honest. No one is gonna look at me n think my body is tea, n I feel like saying I’m a goddess is way better than being disingenuous and/or disrespectful

Anonymous

#1 7w

Yeah thinking about it in their perspective it sounds really backhanded but idk I rmm back when I was like 100 pounds heavier I used to think “I wish I was compared to Aphrodite” cuz I just saw nothing wrong with her build and I had a similar shape and body comp. And I’ve seen thinner girls be called that idk I just never saw it as something backhanded so I was like damn never thought it could be seen as an insult. Or a “realistic body” like hello? We’re not tryna go back to 2014 tumblr pls.

Anonymous

#2 7w

Now yall are making me rethink every compliment I ever got. I mean this one is fs obvious but ykw I mean 😭 dude im slow

Anonymous

swimreaper 7w

I’m sorry I didn’t mean to do that :( some can be genuine and just come off in the wrong way to some people. Maybe I’m just extra sensitive to it because I’m autistic and I’m used to people insulting me in passive aggressive ways

Anonymous

#2 7w

Yeah I get that. That’s me when someone wants to comment on me being Hispanic or in relation to my culture. I am very on edge about it. I give ppl the benefit of the doubt a lot bc a lot of the time I know they mean well but clearly fail at communicating. You didn’t do anything wrong though love don’t worry about it 💕 everyone’s experiences and emotions are different and I just choose to not say anything unless I know exactly what I wanna say to avoid offending them

Anonymous

swimreaper 7w

Or at least make my intentions are clear so no one’s confused

Anonymous

#3 7w

When I see a girl who looks like that, I’m salivating and my brain says crazy unhinged lesbian things that are not appropriate to leave in the comments of a stranger’s post. “You’re so pretty!!” doesn’t fuckin cut it g I need you to understand that I would go to war for you

Anonymous

#1 7w

I can see where you’re coming from, but I gotta agree with OP, here. 💔 A lot of these are kind and thoughtful compliments, and I’ve always gotten the ick from people shutting stuff like that down. It often reads as if they’re denying the notion of people finding anyone who’s not skinny and white attractive. I know it stems from insecurity, and maybe I’m reading too much into it as someone who struggles with body dysmorphia, but when people complain about these sorts of compliments 1/

Anonymous

#4 7w

Are they not just further putting down every single person who’s “fatter” or less “conventionally attractive” than them? Why do we assume someone is being disingenuous when saying what they love about a plus sized person? Why do we take offense to them loving us exactly as we are? Why would so many of us rather be called something we’re not (skinny) rather than learning to love our body as is?

Anonymous

#4 7w

Sorry for the rant 😔💔 I do see where you’re coming from, it just makes me so sad to see women inadvertently putting other women down just because they’re insecure about themself. It just leads to a vicious cycle, and so many don’t even realize what they’re doing. I felt this way for so long until I realized that every time I vocally put myself down for having x flaw, I was also dragging down millions of other beautiful women with me.

Anonymous

#3 7w

Oh…

Anonymous

#3 7w

See I wouldn’t call the women I’ve loved, cared for, and have given anything up for them “bitches”. They’re women. They’re beautiful. They’re so gorgeous in their own way sometimes it makes me speechless to exist in the same plane of existence. Just calling them bitches and then adding that is giving man with no true respect for the women he claims to care about.

Anonymous

swimreaper 7w

Girl I never called them a bitch, I called myself a bitch 😭 like “it’s me, ya bitch” yk?

Anonymous

#3 7w

Ohhh bruh I’m thinking like all of women especially the ones ur romantically and sexually attracted to as “bitches”

Anonymous

swimreaper 7w

Noooo I’d genuinely never 🫶 fr the only reason I refer to myself as a bitch or ya bitch or ya boi or whatever is bcos I’m more on the dyke side of things n I have a little bit of a complicated relationship w my gender 🤧