Anonymous #1 1d

good thing my profile explicitly said: “i am attracted to: whatever the opposite of nonchalance is” also stop using that word ffs

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Anonymous OP 1d

it’s a legit word with meaning not just a random buzzword. he’s putting the ball in your court to express interest in hanging out again, if you’re above that then don’t hang out with him? it’s not crazy to drop a line like that after the first date, not wanting to come on too strong in case you weren’t interested

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Anonymous #1 1d

i know the word has a meaning, and i’m aware he put “the ball in my court” but its a pretty clear indication he has no interest if he won’t even suggest that HE wants to hang out again

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Anonymous #1 1d

putting the burden on the other person to make an effort is a pretty clear indicator you don’t like them that much—save yourself the heartache moving forward

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Anonymous OP 1d

telling someone to let you know if they wanna hang again IS implying that they also want to hang out again, but i get wanting someone that’s more upfront about their interest

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Anonymous #1 1d

no, saying “do you want to hang out again” is saying you want to hang out again. this is the romantic equivalent of “you can come if you want to” which shocker, makes people feel unwanted!

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Anonymous #1 1d

every date i’ve gone on has ended with a text exchange to the effect of “I had a great time would you like to hang out again!” not mid walking away from restaurant “Text me if you want”

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Anonymous OP 1d

You’re probably ugo then ☹️ sorry girl

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Anonymous OP 1d

agreed it’s low effort, but if he didn’t wanna see you again he wouldn’t have told you to text him

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Anonymous #2 1d

which is fine! but i’d rather be ghosted than be told point blank “you can text me if ~you~ want to hang out” like… ugh

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Anonymous #3 1d

he didn’t though, normally when u want to hang out w someone after a first date you say “i’d like to hang out” not “text me if u want to”

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Anonymous OP 1d

yeahh honestly ik some guys where they r like that even if they r into it so u dont know for sure but that shows lack of initiative and effort either in character or the dynamic but regardless he’s not the best one for u if he doesn’t show that

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Anonymous #3 1d

i really don’t care if he’s into at this point

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Anonymous #3 1d

he just texted me he was uninterested, i’m telling y’all—i KNOW lmao

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Anonymous OP 1d

I knew it :(

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