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Guys question: Is cheating on your abuser ok? I’m writing a story and wondering if my character should cheat on her absuer
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Anonymous 21h

Does your character have to do the morally correct thing all the time? The best character is dynamic - their values can’t be perfect. She may find comfort in someone who she thinks loves her, who shows her the warmth that her abuser lacks. And she can feel guilty, and in the Wrong, which creates a rounded version of a character rather than a flat Morally Perfect Main Character

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Anonymous 21h

I mean personally I don't see a problem with it because the abuser automatically breaks the sanctity of the relationship via the abuse and the victim doesn't owe them shit, including loyalty But those are just my thought and I want to know your guys'

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Anonymous 21h

Is it wrong? Maybe. Is it realistic? Probably. It’s also fiction, so write whatever you want. Fiction doesn’t have to be morally correct all the time.

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Anonymous 20h

please don’t write a story based on what’s morally correct. the best characters have good AND bad qualities (even tho personally i don’t think there’s anything bad about cheating on an abuser). if it makes sense for your character, do it!

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Anonymous 22h

2 wrongs don't make a right

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Anonymous 22h

From a moral standpoint I mean

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Anonymous 21h

Okay I mean still not really is okay but at that point I wouldn’t be emotionally invested anymore with them so I would or entertain the idea🤷‍♀️

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Anonymous 21h

i would say it’s pretty mixed, people tend to be pretty divided on that, but it can be used to add depth to a character, danger and tension to a story, or could be an escape story

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Anonymous 20h

Girl just write the story!!

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 22h

if anything it's just more dangerous

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 21h

No I totally get it. But some people may not just bc they are scared of their abuser but there are many who may entertain the idea of having something else with someone because they don’t want to stay with that person but feel they have to stay with the abuser even if they didn’t want to just bc of that trauma bond that’s created

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 21h

Oh, good point about the trauma bond I didn’t think about that. That’s what makes it so hard to leave

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 20h

Oh I’m writing! I just want opinions

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 19h

So valid!! I just think you should do whatever gives the character more complexity if that is what u want!! We dont have to be concerned w whats moral or not when it comes to writing

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