Anonymous #1 5d

I don’t want to like stereotype or like make something only for a specific group. But like his clothes is like very like idk not like normal yk how some guys just be wearing plan shirt and jeans. He wears high waisted jeans and like tshirts with like the frog from Sanrio or like graphics but not like the cool graphics more like the could be something a girl could wear too and his jeans always have some type of design like stars or some anime.

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Anonymous OP 5d

I mean .. do yall do stuff??? Could be bi?

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Anonymous OP 5d

When he sits he crosses his legs like girls usually do. He has long hair (which I don’t find like a sign) but he listens to like girly songs n shit and like always knows all the girl TikTok sounds yk?

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Anonymous #1 5d

We have tried… he can’t keep it up

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Anonymous OP 5d

Has he expressed like legitimate physical attraction to you? That’s the one thing you should be asking yourself right now. If your answer is no or unsure, then I think you really need to sit down and have a conversation with him. How does he behave or react around other men?

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Anonymous #2 5d

I mean yeah I think, like kissing and like boob touching and sometimes dj set 💀 idk how he reacts around other men tbh. He always hangs out with his friends like him and them and I’ve never seen how they interact

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Anonymous OP 5d

Dj set? Idk what that means. You don’t have to answer this at all if you’re uncomfortable and I apologize for asking, but do you guys have an active or healthy sex life? I don’t need explicit details btw!! Just thought I’d ask. You mentioned that he has a hard time keeping it up, has this always been the case? Oh and how long have yall been together? That’s another thing to consider. Either way, I think it’s def time to sit down with him and talk this out.

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Anonymous #2 5d

There is no sex cause of that reason, it’s happened multiple times and every time I ask him he’s like “I’ve looked it up and it’s some sort of performance anxiety” so yeah I just dropped that. We are going to hit our 2 years in June

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Anonymous OP 5d

Oh wow, okay. So you guys have been together for some time now. The fact that you guys have been together for this long and you guys still haven’t found a way to enjoy sex as a couple is definitely a bit odd. What’s his family like? Conservative type? Regardless of his environment, people from all sorts of backgrounds can be closeted which is something to keep in mind.

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Anonymous #2 5d

Yeah ik I’ve thought about it, his mom and siblings are all liberals and his dad like idk in the middle I would say but he does not like gay people. His older brother has a gay friend and he’s told me how his dad doesn’t like him cause of that. Which I have thought like maybe that’s a reason but I also don’t want to just jump out and say he’s gay when he’s not, yk? I just idk I don’t know what to do

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Anonymous OP 5d

If his dad feels this negatively about gay people, I can definitely see why just about anyone would be closeted. Yeahhh im sorry you’re feeling this way, but try to stay calm if you can. Like I said, try to find a way or some time to talk to him about this. I’m not saying he’s gay, but if he turns out that he is, it’s important to remember that he might not come out to you right away. Either way, try to pay close attention to what he says and how he reacts to some of things you bring up.

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Anonymous #2 5d

dj set is like fingering/rubbing her clit type action btw😭🤍 lol

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Anonymous OP 5d

If you still feel this unsure in your relationship with him regardless of whether he’s gay or not, you should probably evaluate if this is a relationship you wanna stay in.

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Anonymous #2 5d

Yeah I love him and if he is gay I know he’ll always be my best friend and I’ll always love him no matter what. I just feel conflicted, thank you for the help though, I’ll definitely have a talk with him

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Anonymous #1 5d

I figured, but I wasn’t 100% sure lmaooo 😭

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Anonymous OP 5d

Yeah of course!! Regardless of the outcome, I’m wishing you nothing but good luck!

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