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I’ve really connected with this guy I’ve been talking to who i met online… and things feel like they’re getting more serious even though it hasn’t been long. but we showed our faces and i’m struggling with physical attraction. i don’t know what to do.
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Anonymous 1d

i know it’s unusual that we didn’t know what each other looked like for a while but it’s just what we were both more comfortable with, since we’re both very cautious with online stuff. it’s making me sick to my stomach. i wish the physical attraction were there. I’m trying to hard to find it.

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Anonymous 1d

There’s nothing wrong with not feeling any physical attraction for someone, it’s not like we can really control that lol. The connection is friendship and that’s awesome, but don’t let it turn into a “leading him on” situation. Like if you already know he is romantically interested in you, or if he isn’t into being friends and wants more, it’s time to let him know

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

i’m sorry if this seems shallow. i know how it sounds. but i’m really stuck here. i’ve never talked to men in any way other than a friendly manner, so i really need help navigating this. i’m so so so unwell over this.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

I’m really afraid of hurting him. I don’t know how or when to do that. We’ve been talking on the phone for hours the past few nights and we’ve told each other so much about ourselves. he’s told me he’s never felt this comfortable in his life before. what if something bad happens?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

You don’t have bad intentions and you don’t want to be mean, so it won’t be mean. He might be a little hurt or feel sad if he has feelings and you don’t, but it’ll be ok. Imo it’s meaner to lead someone on or to give them false hope than it is to be honest with them in a kind way

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

what if i tell him i’m not sure about how serious i want things to get anymore? we had talked about things getting more real since we aren’t far at all in distance. would this be a good way to go about it? i wouldn’t know when to bring it up but maybe?

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