so first get to the root of why you are a people pleaser. for me it was just because i didn’t want them to dislike me, so i did everything they asked. i had a bigger problem of being overly concerned with people’s perception of me, so once i worked on not caring what people thing as much, the people pleasing went away too.

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The people you’re trying to please would never show up for you if you needed them to. I used to be a people pleaser to overcompensate for being an only kid and being a black girl bc I felt like people thought I was selfish or mean so I’d let a lot of things slide and be overly generous. Tbh it has made me bitter which made it easier to stop being a people pleaser but don’t be the first person someone will call on and the last they’ll show up for when you’re in need.

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Start being angry!!!!!! I used to be SUCH a people pleaser (literally would kiss my enemies feet lol) and now that I allow myself to get mad it’s so much easier to just dish disrespect where it’s necessary

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Also realize how evil and disgusting the world is and how you can embrace being a little evil too without hurting anyone LMAO

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