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My long distance best friend is really bad texter and I don’t know how to tell her without it feeling like an attack.

Anonymous 3w

For context, we have been roommates all throughout college. Met freshman year, hung out nearly every day till we moved back to our home states. We just are a really great match with each other in person. But over text it’s different. I’ve always been the one carrying the friendship more id say but we both knew that and it was never really a problem until now, I make all the plans, I do most of the talking. But she was never THIS silent with me

Anonymous

OP 3w

She’s one of the only people I feel I can really be comfortable talking to, and we are both more introverted so she’s always felt the same. We never really fought much either, mostly bc the rare times where I have brought up a problem she gets very sensitive and defensive so I never really wanted to ruin the vibe with it.

Anonymous

OP 3w

Anyway since we have moved back home post grad I’m texting her a lot more, bc it’s not like I can just walk up to her and start talking like usual yk. But she takes sooo long to respond. And when she does it either a reaction or very short, dry response. She also doesn’t really go back in our convos to see things I’ve asked her that she missed. Whenever I ask her abt this she’s like “oh I’m busy” “oh i didn’t see it” but here’s the thing, she’s chronically online, I know she’s seeing my texts

Anonymous

OP 3w

Now I understand if someones busy, I have a life too I’m not always texting either, but I always make sure to respond to things as soon as I can! Meanwhile there’s been entire days where I don’t hear back from her. Before I left I actually did mention that I didn’t want this specific thing to happen and she understood, but here we are! Idk, she knows she’s like my only connection to the outside world rn too, my hometown is very isolated, and all my hs friends are elsewhere. I just feel so alone!

Anonymous

OP 3w

I also feel like when she does respond to me it’s like shes just trying to sate me yk? Like we haven’t had a single good actual conversation over text so far. It’s like, I’ll send her a crazy story that happened to me that day, several hours later she reacts to the message with a “‼️” and “thats crazy” then nothinf. Omfg girl. Pretend that you care pls 😭 I just feel like I’m annoying her these days

Anonymous

OP 3w

But yeah to end this thread, tone is rly hard to translate over text, and there’s been times lately where she’s gotten really snippy with me over something I said she misunderstood the tone of. I want to bring this problem up more seriously, but I don’t want it to seem like I’m putting pressure on her or forcing her to talk to me! I just wanna have fun with my best friend again. I’m trying to keep up this relationship, but it’s just beginning to feel like I’m the only one putting effort in!