Anonymous #1 4d

So you’re cool with their partner getting hurt or heartbroken bc you don’t want to “go behind their back?” Me personally I’d do that regardless of the gender of my friend or their partner. Not only bc there’s genuinely no reason to not just break up instead of cheating but also bc I’m not going to sit back and watch someone get hurt bc someone else decided they wanted to be a shitty person

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Anonymous OP 4d

Unless i know the person previously, no. I dont know it feels icky to get that involved in something when im not my friends mom like. That’s her mess i dont know. I know she’ll grow and move on. And me too i wouldn’t care gender really it’s more like im close with my friend and i dont know the person other than through them and half the time i dont like my best friends bfs anyway. Maybe im crazy like i really cannot imagine going out of my way to go behind my friends back

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Anonymous OP 4d

My outlook on friendship is to support them and when I disagree or think they should go another path I do voice that but from there I support them like they’re gonna do what they’re gonna do and as a friend I’m there for them regardless

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Anonymous #1 4d

Okay then we disagree about this almost entirely. I’m not going to standby and watch my friends do something bad or horrible regarding anything and support them doing that. That’s not being a friend bc you never hold them accountable for the bad things they do. Maybe it’s the way I was raised but I was raised not to be okay with bad actions just bc I like the person doing them. I was also taught not to sit by and watch someone get hurt bc regardless of your personal feels about that person

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Anonymous OP 4d

(even outside of the context of cheating) as long as they’re not some horrible monster of a person you shouldn’t stand by and watch your friend harm someone else just bc that’s your friend. Same way I’ve dropped people bc they were bullies, rude to people, constantly starting drama for no reason, etc.

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Anonymous OP 4d

Also just outside of the friend part. The way I see it is if someone doesn’t want to tell their friend’s partner that they’re cheating on them then they can’t have the expectation that anyone would tell them if their partner was cheating on them. If it’s fine for one person not to tell then it’s fine for everyone not to tell

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Anonymous OP 4d

It’s not that I am not holding them accountable. I can tell them the situation is fucked but I am again not her maker I cannot force her to not be stupid. I’ll just be there for her when it comes crashing down and she’ll learn and we’ll go from there

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Anonymous #1 4d

I get what you’re saying but it’s not about being her maker or forcing her to do anything. It’s about allowing someone to be hard by someone you know just bc you feel like it’s none of your business. That’s why there’s so many issues now bc no one wants to help someone being harmed by their friend. Also this part is my personal opinion so feel free to disregard it but frankly to me it’s odd that you’re willing to stand by and support your friend after she screws someone else over but not help

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Anonymous OP 4d

the person she’s causing harm to.

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Anonymous OP 4d

I’m not allowing her to do anything tho is my point. that’s all on her. It’s her decision. I’m not getting involved lmao i dont know. Agree to disagree

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