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Girl Talk 20h
i’m chubbier/fat and my bf keeps telling me he loves my body but i just don’t feel like that’s possible and idk what to do
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Anonymous 19h

Babes, I promise you are gorgeous. Society changes its beauty standards every other week, and you’ve most likely grown up on being told skinny girls are what’s sexy. I promise that’s not the only way to be pretty. I’d recommend media that promotes body positivity; as a chubby girl myself, it always helps to see people like us portrayed as beautiful, because everybody is. You are a stunning diva, and you deserve to know that

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Anonymous 19h

I’ve heard that some guys prefer chubbier women because they feel softer and that skinny women can be too boney and pokey. He might not be lying. I don’t know if this helps but it might put parts of your mind at ease.

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Anonymous 20h

Do you trust him in other ways? What do you stand to lose for taking him at his word?

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Anonymous 20h

trust me tho i've been there before those kind of shi never heals unless u actually get to get skinnier and healthier

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Anonymous 20h

get on ozempic...

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 20h

yeah i dooo

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 20h

Skinnier =/= healthier... i was chubby and out of shape a year ago and now im chubby and in shape, im just built sturdy. In fact my shirt size went down and im heavier bc muscle mass. Being skinny doesnt fix it if all the mental stuff is still there

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

i don’t stand to lose anything but idk i just feel nothing when he says it

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 20h

yeah but op says she's fat and losing weight does help if the cause of the mental insecurity is there

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

Sometimes trust in words like that means practicing taking him at his word. The block you currently have to believing him doesnt have to be there and the more you hear it and commit to trusting him the more youll believe it

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 20h

Like yes and no. Often w body dysmorphia even losing weight doesnt get rid of it, the person will still feel too big even when theyre small

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 20h

okkkk! do you have any like recommendations about how to removing the block i have and take him at his word?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

To me it helps to respond positively every time youre complimented. Dont dismiss or shrug it off, if he tells you he thinks youre attractive or loves your body you can thank him and maybe add something you like about yourself too, like agree with him yk?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 19h

Get social cues. This isn’t the place to say stupid stuff like that

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 18h

yeah ik what you mean! thank you so much for your help!!

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 18h

Yeah ofc! It can feel kind of weird and conceited ar first but to love yourself you need to acknowledge it

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