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HOW DO I HARDEN MY HEART. WHY DO I FEEL EMPATHY FOR BAD PEOPLE CURSE MY NATURE THAT WANTS THE BEST FOR EVERYONE
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Anonymous 2w

BOUNDARIES. When you spend so much time thinking about how others feel and what made them act the way they do, sometimes it feels like the world is just all act and react and no one truly is doing things of their own mind, but you have to remember that YOU are a person and YOU have your own act and react but you actively choose to be a good person and to try to understand others

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Anonymous replying to -> mother_russia 2w

So you have to give yourself that same understanding and treat your impulses to comfort and coddle bad people the same as you would someone else who is doing something that isn’t good for them, you acknowledge why you feel that way but keep a firm hand redirecting those actions.

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Anonymous replying to -> mother_russia 2w

You need to protect yourself as well as others so soft firm reminders of things you won’t let yourself do is a good thing. For a while I kept it written on my whiteboard that I looked at every day I woke up that I won’t tolerate disrespect and I expect apologies to be reflected by actions

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Anonymous replying to -> mother_russia 2w

Set the boundaries of “if they won’t treat me well or have no interest or intention to change behavior or be better, I will leave.” Just direct them to therapy sources or self help groups that they can go to instead

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