I remember my boyfriend was so insecure because we weren’t having sex that much and I’m not going to lie. Maybe this is when I started falling out of love with him, but he was always nervous when I went to class that I would talk to somebody or do anything with somebody. He would literally make me feel guilty for going to college
This is an adhd thing that he has to learn to get over (if he’s neurodivergent. If he’s not then he’s just an asshole). Like if he wanted to talk to you but has a hard time remembering things that are right in front of him, then he could set alarms or calendar reminders to talk to you or check in (that’s what I did when some of my friends became long distance so I wouldn’t forget to talk to them).
It took me, AuDHD, four years and several grippy sock vacations before I stopped keeping up as much with friends from home. Now I’m getting better at it. My best friend, sister, and parents all live in different states and I am in constant contact with them. You deserve a *LOT* better than this.
he’s been ghosting me for a week and has yet to tell me why, but i reckon it’s for the same reasons as this dude. it hurts and it bothers me but i don’t wanna show him that it bothers me as much as it does. why am i wasting my time and energy every day on a man who doesn’t even think about me? i keep telling myself he’s a nice guy but im so done
Thank you for saying basically what I wanted to say but better. As someone with autism (possibly audhd) I have also really struggled to stay in touch with people. For a variety of reasons. But I KNOW it’s an issue, like yes it’s “just how I am”, but I can also change who I am and have been working on being better at communicating.