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Girl Talk 16w
the “man” who literally made me lose my faith in the male gender has apparently transitioned to female and i genuinely cant process that info
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Anonymous 16w

oh and apparently she is still in my town! meaning i will probably run into her! awesome!

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Anonymous 16w

good for her. doesn't make her less shitty of a person though lol. hope your town is big enough that y'all don't bump into each other.

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Anonymous 16w

sometimes closeted trans ppl will be very hypermasculine (if amab) or hyperfeminine (if afab) as a coping mechanism. and obviously most hypermasculine trans women don’t hurt ppl, but that might be why this specific person hurt ppl in a male way. hopefully her being out and accepting her identity will make her a better person and she’ll take accountability for the harm she’s caused. still a weird situation and im sorry you’re dealing with this 💜

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Anonymous 16w

the way i had a similar situation a few years ago 😐 nothing but respect for her finally transitioning but damn they fucked me up

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Anonymous 16w

I have nothing to add but damn that’s a massive plot twist

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Anonymous 16w

faith restored? maybe 😭

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Anonymous 16w

seems like bro also lost faith in the male gender

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Anonymous 16w

he made himself lose faith in the male gender

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Anonymous 16w

sounds like bio-essentialism bit you in the ass a little

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Anonymous replying to -> ellie 16w

me too. it’s honestly really jarring for me bc i felt like she hurt me (and others) in a very male way, like male patterns of abuse and such. so now i’m like what do i do with that yk?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

i mean people can do shitty things across all gender lines. don't use it to invalidate her gender, but just maybe warn other people to be aware of her abusive behavior etc etc. especially if she's dating in the queer community because it's viewed as a more "safe space" so people might not be looking for those patterns.

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Anonymous replying to -> ellie 16w

like when i found out what she did my reaction was oh, i thought you were different but i guess you’re just like every other man and that was how i rationalized it. and now there’s no rationalization

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Anonymous replying to -> ellie 16w

oh yeah of course! sorry i’m just venting because it also made me revisit my past with her and that was not super fun. but i appreciate everything you’re saying and i totally agree

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

i mean u could just rationalize that she was a shitty person in general. abusers are abusers are abusers.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

no yeah it totally sucks. having past trauma jump out at u like that is awful

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

u don't gotta apologize

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Anonymous replying to -> ellie 16w

thank you <3 that is very affirming to hear thank you

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

Being raised & socialized male definitely has its effects

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

I’ve heard that there are some closeted trans people hella overcompensate and lean really hard into all their most toxic gender roles pre transition, but none of the trans people I’ve known have been like that so idk how common that actually is

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 16w

Being raised, yeah, I used to talk about trans people being socialized make or female too but I’ve learned more recently from being friends with and talking to more of them that most of the time their socialization is mixed in terms of gender in different areas, and the experiences lead to a trans person taking on toxic traits to fit in can be very different than what might lead others to that

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

oh also i’m gay so i will probably see her on my tinder now if she’s dating about. even better.

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 15w

yk what i just now realized that i totally predicted this a year and a half ago. so maybe not a plot twist after all

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