Anonymous #1 2w

it’s not for everyone which is okay. but I still believe a woman should get married for her own benefit if she plans to have kids. not to mention if she’s a good mother she’ll want to ENSURE her kids will have a complete family

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Anonymous #2 2w

also what did #1 say bc they have me blocked LMFAO

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Anonymous #2 2w

I agree with this take even though I’m no contact w my mom and close with my dad. So many men just expect children probably because they’re not the ones who have to deal with pregnancy and child birth. I’d want to be a dad too if I could. Men get so angry when they find out I don’t want kids because they only see women as a way to pass on their genes lmaaoo

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Anonymous #2 2w

just that they don’t want kids and don’t believe in marriage. but to your first point, I can never understand the “you can just get divorced” like ?? sure. but planning a wedding takes so much time and money, so long to genuinely reflect on if you really want to commit to each other. divorce is harder than the guy just running off. so ?? just get married. it legally protects you in many ways

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Anonymous #3 2w

this is off topic but your comment reminded me. I had an ex tell me he wants 6 kids and I was like why would I ruin my body and put my life at risk 6 times. and I was telling him like I want a career, I can’t have a career and care for 6 kids and be pregnant for basically 6 years. and he was like “we can get a nanny” and I was like “why would I birth 6 kids just for someone else to raise them.” and then I said again how it’s putting my life at risk 6 times and he said “stop making excuses.”

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Anonymous OP 2w

(2) he definitely didn’t want to be a father he just wanted to tell people he had 6 kids for whatever fucking reason

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Anonymous OP 2w

also getting divorced takes years and a SHIT TON of money as well. divorce lawyers are hella expensive.

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Anonymous #3 2w

i ain’t passing no genes on #fuckthemkids 😭

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Anonymous #4 2w

plus you’d have to get married while in school which isn’t easy

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Anonymous #2 2w

if be was a GOOD guy maybe MAX 2 kids. but this guy clearly wasn’t a good guy. let’s also keep in mind he was in his 30s and I was 21 (we weren’t dating he was just trying to date me)

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Anonymous #4 2w

men don’t understand how hard pregnancy is. it’s LITERALLY sucking up all your nutrients

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Anonymous OP 2w

oh brother not the 30 year old trying to date someone 10 years younger… i don’t want kids but if i did i would be a one and done type of person fr

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Anonymous #2 2w

lol I assume his plan was to get someone young bc they’re “more fertile” (even though around 30s is tne healthiest time for the mother to give birth) and so he could try and trick me into thinking having 6 kids was better than having my own life. I can’t imagine why no woman his age wanted him 🙄

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Anonymous #5 2w

prenup 🤷‍♀️ marriage still gets you lots of benefits

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Anonymous OP 2w

exactly, like i would not have been able to mentally handle law school and being pregnant so idk what he would want if he married someone who was also in law school

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Anonymous OP 2w

yea ig the other exception imo is when you don’t have a romantic relationship with your coparent and therefore don’t want to be married. you can make up a contract for that situation without the issues of your spouse being able to make medical decisions on your behalf.

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Anonymous #7 2w

honestly I don’t either but people tell me it is. I think their argument is that I’m saying women HAVE to get married and “owned by a man” if she wants kids

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Anonymous #2 2w

I tf they blocked me too

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Anonymous #8 2w

antibiotics and other prescribed medications have been known to decrease the efficacy of birth controls. you have to consult with doctors if that will happen or not and if it does you have to use a backup method.

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Anonymous #2 2w

I wasn’t on antibiotics. I was on anticonvulsants. (Seizure meds) don’t fucking blame me for accidentally getting pregnant when my doctor knew the meds I was on

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Anonymous #2 2w

I knew antibiotics and St. John’s wort affect BC but not seizure meds

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Anonymous #8 2w

I mean 😭 you’re supposed to tell them what meds you’re on for this exact reason. especially bc that could’ve been dangerous for you and the baby

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Anonymous OP 2w

They knew the meds I was on..?

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Anonymous #8 2w

girl you’re getting too emotional immediately yelling at everyone and downvoting. God forbid I misread and thought you said they didn’t know 🙄 chill out for five seconds. if you’re getting this upset over YikYak then you need to put your phone down and go outside

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Anonymous #8 2w

thank God you didn’t have a baby with this attitude

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Anonymous OP 2w

Yelling is crazy. No I don’t agree with your takes I agreed with you AT FIRST but now I see you blame women for accidentally getting pregnant. There are circumstances where women just get pregnant on purpose or recklessly and I wasn’t one of those. Blaming me for taking anti convulsants when that was a risk to me and baby when I didn’t even know? Is crazy and rude. god forbid it happens to u fr

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Anonymous OP 2w

You’re a horrible person! :)

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Anonymous OP 2w

Currently family planning btw and I’m married r u? 😘

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Anonymous #8 2w

girl bye. I think women SHOULD be more careful about getting pregnant. most women I know don’t use the pill correctly AND refuse to use condoms. then they’re shocked when they’re a single mom and the father dips. literally no one blamed you for accidently mixing the wrong medicines, you’re just assuming that’s what I meant bc you want a reason to argue.

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Anonymous OP 2w

Ur saying it’s good I didn’t have a baby.. that my doctor should’ve known (she did) and that what I did was dangerous to me and baby.. that’s blaming. And it wasn’t my fault ✌🏻 idc

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Uhm.. it’s funny that people are calling me names and stuff when literally I am not doing the same to you so look in the mirror I guess

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Anonymous OP 2w

And God forbid she got upset that someone responding assuming it was her fault for what sounds like a really personal and emotional experience? Why are you getting so upset at this YikYak poster getting being emotional about how people react to her talking about her life?

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Anonymous #8 2w

it is good you didn’t have a baby if you get this angry at such small things. work on yourself first. and I already said I misread and thought you said your doctor didn’t know your medications so come off it. it IS dangerous for you and the baby and honestly I really only gaf that it was dangerous to you but now idgaf. get a grip

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Anonymous OP 2w

No one’s angry? I’m being called a c word and shit being told thank god I didn’t have a baby. You’re the one who’s miserable. I love being a wife and can’t wait to be a mom!

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she is a cunt omg. she’s not listening to anyone. just immediately getting emotional and blaming and name calling instead of listening

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Anonymous OP 2w

How did I name call? I said she’s horrible bc she said thank god I shouldn’t have a baby??? Ur calling me a c word. Lol

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Anonymous #8 2w

married and getting my PhD 😘

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Anonymous OP 2w

So am I lol but I don’t call people c*nts online good luck to your marriage if you’re that mean of person I feel sorry for your husband

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Anonymous #7 2w

I mean all she had to do was explain. miscommunication happens. but she didn’t. also my reaction was in defense to her coming at #2 for absolutely no reason. she needs to take a breath and chill out. there was literally zero reason to fight. if she’d explained instead of yelling then #2 and I wouldn’t have gotten mad and things wouldn’t have blown up.

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Anonymous OP 2w

You’re the one who’s mad. Not me! Plus how was I mean to #2. Literally show me! You guys are calling me names. I originally agreed with you!

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Anonymous #8 2w

no. you’re not. also YOU are the one who started getting mean. the ONLY reason I got an attitude with you is bc I was defending #2 bc you attacked her for absolutely no reason. my husband loves me bc I know how to control my emotions

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Anonymous OP 2w

I still have yet to call either of you names

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Anonymous #8 2w

I also originally agreed with you until you started picking a fight just bc i accidentally misread

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Anonymous OP 2w

You can’t. You just admitted to getting mad and name calling. How was I mean? Show me dude

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Anonymous #8 2w

when you immediately got mad and downvoted me for misunderstanding you and then called me a bad person ?? use your brain

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Anonymous OP 2w

You said thank god you didn’t have a baby!? Yea that’s rude. I downvoted because I don’t agree doesn’t mean I was mean. You guys are the ones who actually called me names. I’m not even mad just sad bro I got called cunt after being vulnerable about my miscarriage. You guys are mean and mad. NOT ME

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Anonymous #8 2w

you started cussing at me for no reason originally even tho i was just saying to make sure your meds don’t interfere with your birth control. had i known the other context you said after that i wouldn’t have said anything.

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Anonymous #8 2w

you think you’re eating so bad. whole time YOU picked the fight when there was absolutely NOTHING to fight about. just be an adult and move the fuck on. literally what is there even to be mad about?

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Anonymous OP 2w

I’m not mad you said you were mad dude. You’re a bitter person and I’m done. Hope you never lose a baby ✌🏻

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Anonymous #8 2w

show me where I said I was mad

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Anonymous OP 2w

But if you do hope someone tells you the same thing.

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Anonymous #8 2w

“I wouldn’t have gotten mad” anyways bye.

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Anonymous #8 2w

YOU are the one who started arguing. IMMEDIATELY downvoting my misunderstanding, which seems angry to me. IMMEDIATELY calling me a bad person. whatever your comment about #8 was which was unnecessary

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Anonymous OP 2w

she blocked you? go figure

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Anonymous #2 2w

yes. right as I was trying to tell her me “being mad” was in reaction to her being mean to you. I was literally willing to be nice and explain my misunderstanding until she said whatever rude thing she said to you, I can’t even remember. I didn’t even get to see the quote she made of my post

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Anonymous #9 2w

I have SO many women on Facebook (like old co workers, old peers) who post bragging about not using condoms or birth control. on accident is one thing but not even trying to prevent it is crazy. then they get on complaining about the dad being a pos (which is his fault) but like 😭 im begging women to not sleep with useless men bc I really don’t know what to tell you when things go south

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Anonymous #5 2w

I mean that’s why I’m talking about getting married BEFORE having kids. if you aren’t married you really should be wrapping it up. then you don’t have to worry about having any relationship with a coparent. but I also DEFINITELY agree that you shouldn’t marry someone you don’t love just bc you have a baby together

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Anonymous OP 2w

You treating downvoting as if it’s some sign of someone being angry or rude is wild

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Anonymous OP 2w

oh i mean purposefully having a baby with someone but not romantically, like if you’re aromantic or prefer to be single but want to have a coparent

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Anonymous OP 2w

But she didn’t “mix the wrong medicine” you can’t just stop taking anti seizure meds. The dr probably didn’t even consider the interactions and didn’t warn her. I’ve had that happen too many times. You gotta stop harping on this poor girl that’s just giving you a different perspective

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Anonymous #2 2w

Id block OP too if they were harassing me about a very personal situation

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Anonymous #8 2w

Girl, you’re good, you don’t need to explain shit to anonymous people online and it’s outrageous for someone to think they are owed that.

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Anonymous OP 2w

What part of the south do you live in bc where I live, it’s extremely taboo

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Anonymous #9 2w

see and I assumed it would be taboo here too 😭I’m in Kentucky so not SOUTH south

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Anonymous OP 2w

Oh I’m on the coast 😭 yeah different breeds of yee haw

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