
deadass tell all his male friends/cohorts (if you feel comfortable) bc that’s extremely disrespectful to take a girl’s first time and just dust her like that after — any men with any respect for women will dog on him for that shit. trust me. i’m a grown woman and my freshman year, all the boys avoided my roommate bc we hadn’t had her first time. they respected tf outta her. even if she had wanted to, the guys wouldn’t bc they knew they’re not tryna take her first time for nothing. i’m with you
no need to make it a manifesto confession, but unfortunately his friends might be birds of a feather so pls consider that as an outcome. however i do recommend a short (1-2 sentence) message like “your homie apparently will convince a woman to have their first time with him then he will run away with it. you got a big ol’ loser on your team!!”
It’s not your bad. You’re not easy nor in the wrong. You had a natural human desire and acted on it. If you take anything from this experience it should be that direct communication, and boundaries are important to set before intimacy. Boundaries can’t/don’t control other people, they are just our standards for what we will tolerate, and walk away from.