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Girl Talk 17h
my boyfriend is the perfect boyfriend in so many ways, but he isn’t the person i thought i was signing up for. now i feel like im in too deep to break up and i have no real good reason. advice? more context in replies
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Anonymous 16h

i'm gonna stop u right at the top, it's never too late and too deep in to breakup with someone. if yalls don't align then there's no reason to stay

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Anonymous 16h

and you may say “then leave”, but he hasn’t done anything really wrong. i feel terrible leaving when he didn’t do anything to “deserve” it. he’s caring and kind and thoughtful. i don’t have anything i can really say he did “wrong”, minus the alcohol stuff, but he’s been better with that.

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Anonymous 17h

when i met him, he had a 4.0, pre med major. i thought he was a smart guy who prioritized school and had ambitions. but i feel like i always have, and hate it: he doesn’t feel at my level. he constantly asks what “big words” i use mean, he never uses correct grammar (which drives me nuts), and in general just makes me feel like i have to be in charge. i thought i was getting into a relationship with someone who understands me as an intellectual equal (1)

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16h

but he flunked classes, hardly passed the rest, and developed an alcohol problem. he doesn’t give a fuck about school. he changed his major because he needed something “easier”, because he “doesn’t have the work ethic”. he has no ambitions for his future. there’s been incidents where his alcohol problem has put me in possibly unsafe situations. the thing is, he’s a total sweetheart. he clearly loves me to pieces. he pays attention to little things, carries my bags, compliments me constantly.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16h

he’s perfect until he’s not. he very clearly cares about me, but the alcohol makes him reckless sometimes. he stopped drinking hard liquor for a month now and there haven’t been any incidents. but i just keep coming back to the fact he’s so much lazier and undisciplined than i thought.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16h

When you say “alcohol problem” do you mean addiction?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 16h

i guess so, like using it to cope and too often, he would drink alone instead of hanging out, drink instead of doing schoolwork that he needed to do. he also does stupid things drunk that have been a problem.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 16h

that’s a good way to put it, i feel like in some ways we don’t align. i just feel bad because he’s such a good guy and that feels like not enough of a reason.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16h

u would be an even worse person to him and urself if u continued on in the relationship when u knw how u feel about him

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16h

u don't have to have something done wrong in order to not be compatible and align anymore

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