Anonymous mother_russia 3w

I didn’t think he was but now I’m really questioning it. I’ve never once looked through his phone but now I’m wondering if I should just to give myself the peace of mind or get the truth over with

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Anonymous OP 3w

I would honestly check his photo memories on snap or his phone (if he has the same phone that he had when he last dated her) because he could be using old explicit photos of her to jerk off to and that’s why he said her name 😬😬

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Anonymous OP 3w

I think it’s valid to ask if he’s been in contact with her recently and to look at his phone in this case.

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Anonymous mother_russia 3w

Oh god I really hope he’s not 😭 but thank you for confirming that it’s fine to check his phone. I always worried that checking each other phones would be a breach of trust but tbh we’re far beyond that point now. I’m going to talk to him later and ask to look through it, hopefully he didn’t already delete anything suspicious if there was anything

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Anonymous OP 3w

Yeah you could always try to reach out to her to see if she has been in contact with him at all

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Anonymous OP 3w

it’s really not fine to go through each others phones :( if you’re at that point, then the trust is already gone. if you can’t trust him to tell you the truth when you ask, it’s already over and you deserve better

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Anonymous #2 3w

Ugh I hate this

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Anonymous #2 3w

That’s the thing, he obviously does care and he knows how hurtful it was. He’s trying to reassure me but hasn’t given me any real explanation of why he said it. It’s not that I think he doesn’t care about me or is purposely trying to lie to me I think there’s just a lot of miscommunication and misunderstood feelings between us right now. He’s not disregarding me necessarily

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Anonymous OP 3w

Yeah ask him why he said it or why he thinks he said it, because really there should be ZERO reason for that. It’s not like an accidental habit or anything, like that’s got to be something he is thinking about to ever say it.

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Anonymous mother_russia 3w

My thoughts exactly girl!! Thank you for not making me feel crazy because for a minute I thought I was 😭

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Anonymous OP 3w

You aren’t crazy at all!!

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Anonymous OP 3w

I’ve been with my bf for almost 3 years and if EVER did that I would absolutely believe he was cheating or something because never once have I ever thought of saying anyone’s name but his let alone this far into the relationship 💀

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Anonymous mother_russia 3w

Right?!? I have never thought about another guy like that the entire time we’ve been together, and now I can’t even imagine how many times he must have been thinking about her while we were together and I just didn’t know. I’m praying to god this was just an innocent slip up but it’s really hard to believe it could be just that

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Anonymous OP 3w

maybe he honestly is as confused as you are, probably really embarrassed too, and doesn’t know how to process it. guys aren’t really always great at that sort of thing 🤷‍♀️ they also usually don’t tend to process breakups as well as we do, so while he probably isn’t still interested in her or anything, it might have just been some weird unprocessed thing slipping up and again, he probably doesn’t know why or what to think about it

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Anonymous #2 3w

If that’s the case I wish he would just be honest about that. I’m not trying to make him sound like a bad guy or anything because I don’t think he is, but after all this time together I would hope that if he’s confused about his feelings or his past relationship, he would be comfortable enough to talk about it with me. I’m not asking him to bend over backwards to make it up to me. I just want him to talk to me about it. Whatever happens happens, but I think I deserve to know his thoughts

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Anonymous OP 3w

either way this sucks so bad and i’m sorry that you’re going through it! if it were me personally, i would not be able to get past that kind of thing at all :( there’s a lot yall need to talk about and i hope he can act like a grown up about it and talk to you

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