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Girl Talk 14w

mother_russia

 Reminder that when you talk negatively about other people, the people around you will remember and internalize it. Mock or comment on anyone’s weight, personality, interests, looks, habits, etc. and your friend will absolutely think that of themselves.
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Anonymous 14w

My bf’s friend group has made some rude comments in judgement over a different girl and it made me feel so horrible for her and also question if that’s how they talked about me, and when I brought this up to my bf I think it really clicked how talking negatively about people will effect those around you even when not talking about them.

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Anonymous 14w

birds of a feather flock together

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 14w

I see what you mean but his friends are his roommates he was randomly paired with. They have similar hobbies which is why they get along but not morals.

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Anonymous replying to -> mother_russia 14w

there’s no obligation to befriend people you live with, let alone have them be your primary friend group - i personally think morals are way more important when choosing friends than hobbies lol

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 14w

By morals I mean that they are kinda sexist and haven’t deprogrammed unintentional biases, not that they are horrible. Like I trust these men with my drinks and they listen when I talk about sexual abuse, but they still believe using terms like bitch is gender neutral. His main friends are me and other girls but these are the guys he interacts with daily. Both me and him are too tired to try to explain why they shouldn’t talk like that and their internalized misogyny, so

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 14w

We only bring it up if it’s actively problematic. In this specific instance, it is and he will be talking to them about how they are talking about this other girl. My bf didn’t understand how serious the comments were until I explained how it made me feel and how every other woman would experience that, even if the girl was being obnoxious and mean that doesn’t validate how one of the guys talked. It’s more along the lines of “picking your battles” when it’s people you live with.

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